Welcome to Love and Abuse, the show about helping you identify poisonous communication and toxic behavior.

You deserve to be treated with respect and kindness.

That's why it's important that you learn to pinpoint manipulative and controlling behavior so that you keep your power and your sanity.

I'm your host, Paul Koliani.

Thank you. power and your sanity. I'm your host, Paul Koliani. Hey, welcome back to love and abuse.

If you've not heard the first episode that describes exactly what we're talking about

over here at the love and

abuse podcast. It's all about emotional abuse, manipulation, deceptive language, deceptive words,

anything that someone does to unethically or immorally influence you using their language,

using their behavior. And I'm here to help educate you so that you don't get sucked into some trap.

And that could be a relationship trap.

You could be locked into a relationship that turns bad.

You know, the word abuse comes up in the words emotional abuse and people don't think

that their relationship is abusive because my partner or my friend or my coworker or my boss,

they're just a nice person. So how could they possibly be being abusive? I know what abuse is.

Abuse is leaving marks on my body. Abuse is shoving me. Abuse is

so many other things, but it has not been told enough how much emotional abuse leaves scars.

I don't mean physical scars. I just mean when you are dealing with someone who is doing any type of manipulation

or emotional abuse or trying to con you in some way, it leaves emotional scars. You have feelings

about it. And if you're in a romantic relationship with someone like that, it's a continuous thing.

It's a long, drawn out process that you continue to get exposed to day

after day after day, but it's very hard to pinpoint without the context of the long haul.

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