Don't Bench Yourself with Kent Evans

Awesome Marriage Podcast

Dr. Kim Kimberling

Society & Culture, Religion & Spirituality, Relationships, Christianity

4.9 • 802 Ratings

🗓️ 19 September 2025

⏱️ 66 minutes

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Summary

Today we're diving into Kent's brand-new book, Don't Bench Yourself. In it, Kent challenges readers to take an honest look at their lives, at the opportunities they might be missing, the risks they're avoiding, and the goals left sitting on the table. His message is clear: it's time to get off the bench and stay in the game. Whether it's in your career, your marriage, or your parenting journey, you can't afford to sit on the sidelines. This book will inspire you to move past fear, let go of shame, and trust God's perfect timing as you keep pressing forward.

Episode Highlights:

What is slow quitting?

Fear paralyzes us from stepping into deeper connections.

Shame kicks in when we try and fail and then we believe the lie that it'll never get better than this.

Criticism can inhibit someone's desire to continue pressing forward.

Motivation can decrease when we don't see quick results.

Quotes from Today's Episode:

For some of us, what we need to see with our eyes of faith, is a life lived and ended in faith. - Kent Evans

You pull yourself out of the game because you think you no longer qualify to play. - Kent Evans

We get impatient with God so we quit. We draw ourselves out of the game. -Kent Evans

Fear is causing you to be stuck. - Dr. Kim

One of the fastest ways out of a problem is clearly labeling the problem. - Kent Evans

It's so much easier to point the finger, but yet it doesn't resolve anything. -Dr. Kim

We have a tendency as guys, when things aren't going well, we have a tendency to withdraw. -Dr. Kim

A big temptation for me is to spend time and energy where there is a really clear report card, a really clear measurable level of success. - Kent Evans

We so desperately want to measure growth and success. However, some of the best things in life can't be measured. - Kent Evans

We have a tendency to go where we are being affirmed and people think we're great. - Dr. Kim

A Wider Lens: Questions for Self Reflection

In 12 months how do you want your relationship with your husband or wife to be better?

In 12 months how do you want your relationship with your children to be better?

Name one part of your life where failure kept you from trying again.

Now that you've named it- go try again!

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Transcript

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0:00.0	almost a throwaway phrase in Hebrews 11. If you don't look at it real closely, it says, and all these people did not get what they were promised. They saw it from far off because part of what it's alluding to is the Messiah. The Messiah. These people believed the Messiah was coming. They knew God was good for His Word, but they weren't alive when Jesus was around.
0:25.1	They weren't alive when Jesus was around. It says they saw it, though. They saw it. They saw it.
0:32.5	So for some of us, what we need to see with our eyes of faith is a life lived and ended in faith.
0:39.4	Like we need to visualize our dying breaths, being faith-filled dying breaths. And we look and go, man, you know what,
0:43.9	that's where I want to be. That's where I want to be. I want God to help me get there. Help me get there.
0:48.5	I've kept the good fight. I've fought the fight. As Paul said, I will not give up. When we take that approach, we are witnessing to a great cloud of people around us for sure. Well, welcome to our third week of Fridays in the
0:55.7	fall, our wider lens episodes. Today is with my special guest and friend Kent Evans. Kent is
1:01.7	the executive director of Manhood Journey. It is a ministry that equips men and fathers to lead
1:06.8	with godliness. Ken's been married to April for 28 years. He's a dead of five sons and a daughter-in-law.
1:12.6	He is passionate about God's word.
1:14.7	His new book, Don't Binch Yourself.
1:16.5	Isn't just for men.
1:17.7	It's for anyone tempting to count themselves out.
1:20.8	It's an easy read, packed with powerful encouragement.
1:23.8	Let's head to the studio and welcome Kent.
1:26.5	Money issues destroying your marriage.
1:28.1	Stop fighting about finances and start building wealth together.
1:31.6	Take sense these free class.
1:33.2	The four budgeting mistakes most couples make and how to fix them.
1:36.5	Fivocal, proven system that works for couples.
1:39.2	Sign up at the link in our show notes.
1:42.2	Well, Kent, welcome to the Awesome Marriage Podcast.
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