Dominate Me, but Not Like That

Modern Love

The New York Times

Nytimes, Society & Culture, New York Times, Essay, Storytelling, Love, Nyt, Loss, Redemption

4.3 • 9K Ratings

🗓️ 1 March 2023

⏱️ 22 minutes

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Summary

When it came to dating, Aly Tadros was used to hiding the messy parts of her life. “Why even bother? As soon as a guy finds out about my baggage, he bolts,” she wrote in her Modern Love essay. That is, until Dan from OkCupid came along. His dating profile read: “I’m a feminist. I respect women while simultaneously enjoy dominating them.” That was the start of Aly’s journey into B.D.S.M. Today, Aly shares her story about exploring domination and kink, and what it has taught her about setting boundaries and demanding honesty. She calls this mind-set “kink courage” — and it’s changed the way she lives her life.

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0:00.0	From The New York Times, I'm Anna Martin.
0:03.0	Love now and...
0:05.0	Do you fall in love with me?
0:06.0	Yes, I love love.
0:07.0	But stronger than anything.
0:09.0	I love love love.
0:10.0	And I love you more than anything.
0:13.0	You're smart.
0:15.0	Today, we've got an essay about knowing what you want
0:19.0	and asking for it directly.
0:21.0	That's a very vanilla way of saying,
0:24.0	this episode is about kink.
0:27.0	Allie Tadros had no experience with domination in the bedroom,
0:31.0	but she was intrigued.
0:33.0	In her essay, she tells the story of her first BDSM relationship.
0:38.0	And then, we talk about taking kink outside the bedroom
0:41.0	and how it's changed the way Allie approaches her entire life.
0:45.0	This is Modern Love.
0:51.0	Allie, welcome to the studio.
0:53.0	Thank you. I'm so glad to be here.
0:55.0	So, you're a musician.
0:57.0	Why did you write an essay about the story instead of a song?
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