Do you ever notice that we live in a world where it's almost like a badge of honor to say how busy and how tired we are?

Like when people ask, oh, how are you? What's, how have you been? I'm always like, oh, I'm so busy. Like, that somehow shows my worth. Let's have a conversation about that.

Hey, Clutterbugs, welcome back to the Clutterbug Podcast.

For the past few months, I've been seeing a new therapist as part of this

ADHD program that my doctor introduced me to so it's been great. It's very eye opening I'm actually a huge fan of therapy but this is

more intense I feel like than any therapy I've ever had before. Intense maybe isn't the right word.

My therapist is getting real with me and he's been mentioning something lately that I think deeply I knew like somewhere way down deep inside that was an issue,

but I honestly also saw this as like a positive thing. So I want to talk to you about that because maybe you can relate.

And I also were going to be talking about something today called like soft living. This is a new lifestyle trend that honestly I'm not great at

but I was looking into it and it intrigued me. I talk a lot about how I feel guilty and I feel a lot of shame when I'm lazy.

And somewhere in my brain I have this interpretation like my self-worth is tied to how much I get done in a day and it isn't that I'm busting my butt all the time that's most certainly not it at all but I definitely have these expectations

that like I'll be happier or I'm my I'm worth more if I'm doing a lot of things and trying to achieve things, whether that is in my career or even just in my home life.

I always feel a lot of shame on Sunday night if I haven't done a lot of household tasks

over the weekend and I write myself lists.

This weekend I was supposed to plant a garden and do like all these things which should be enjoyable and nice and but but my brain takes it as like taskmaster check it off your, in order for you to feel like you've accomplished something.

Like somehow checking these things off makes me a better person.

I don't even know where this comes from. I see people in my own life and I and I grew up with

parents who really prided themselves on how much they got done and working hard and they were always talking about how tired they were and how busy they were.

And I remember that being like a very big turn off and I was like I don't want to be that kind of grown up and yet I here I am doing the same thing

Talking about all the things I have going on and filling my life so that it feels very chaotic and

Hectic and busy and sometimes it feels like I'm on this like stress hamster wheel

that there's this pressure to really hustle in life and I'm either hustling and doing stuff or I'm avoiding doing stuff which looks a lot like checking out.

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