Does Being Less Nice Get Easier?
Shrink For The Shy Guy
Dr. Aziz: Social Anxiety And Confidence Expert, Author and Coach
4.8 • 649 Ratings
🗓️ 12 May 2021
⏱️ 31 minutes
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Summary
How To Confidently Be More Real And Authentic
So, for a while now you've been practicing being more assertive, direct, or authentic in your life. The question that pops up though is "does this ever get easier??"
Dr. Aziz answers this question, and so much more, in today's episode. Discover the two aspects of turning a lifetime of being too nice into a completely new version of you who can speak up freely in a bold, direct, kind way.
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to Shrink for the Shy Guy. |
| 0:05.0 | This is the show for you if you are sick and tired of being held back by fear, self-doubt, |
| 0:10.0 | social anxiety, shyness, anything that's stopping you from you being you. |
| 0:15.0 | I'm going to share the most powerful tools and resources that I've been discovering over the last 15 years on my |
| 0:21.9 | journey to eradicate social anxiety and instill confidence, first in myself and then in every |
| 0:28.5 | single person that I meet on my journey. You're going to learn these tools and how to apply them |
| 0:33.1 | in your life now so that you can become the most free, powerful, bold, authentic version of you. |
| 0:46.6 | Hey, welcome today's episode of the show. |
| 0:50.4 | Today we're going to be talking about everybody's favorite topic, |
| 0:57.9 | niceness, and how to be less of it. |
| 1:03.9 | And you listen to my show for any length of time or read my book, Not Nice, then you know what I mean by Nice. |
| 1:12.5 | And if this is new to you, if you feel a cringy reaction inside that says, oh my God, being less nice, that's a terrible human thing to do. |
| 1:20.8 | Well, actually, the opposite of nice is not to be intentionally cruel or hurtful or mean or a jerk or an asshole or any other label. The opposite of nice, as you will see, is authenticity, is realness, because niceness, for the vast majority, |
| 1:31.6 | I mean, someone could use the word in a slightly different way, but if you really study |
| 1:34.9 | how it's used and what I'm trying to point to here with this term of niceness, is that fear |
| 1:41.3 | that we have of being disliked, that fear of conflict, that fear of upset, right? |
| 1:46.8 | And then from that place, we act polite, we act quiet, we don't speak up, we don't say the truth, we avoid things, because we're trying to keep the peace. |
| 1:58.9 | We are terrified of any sort of turbulence, discomfort, friction, or conflict. |
| 2:06.3 | That's what niceness is. And now if you're terrified of something and it feels extremely |
| 2:10.4 | threatening or dangerous or bad or wrong, then you just might avoid it. If you're a human, that's what we tend to do with the stuff that we don't like. might avoid it. |
| 2:20.4 | If you're a human, that's what we tend to do with the stuff that we don't like. |
| 2:21.1 | We avoid it. |
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