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The Overwhelmed Brain

Does Authenticity Make You Cringe - Getting Past Your Partner's Past - Building Rapport with People

The Overwhelmed Brain

Paul Colaianni: Emotional Abuse and Relationship Expert

Mental Health, Education, Health & Fitness, Self-improvement

4.52K Ratings

🗓️ 25 June 2017

⏱️ 69 minutes

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Summary

When someone expresses themselves to you, do you cringe at the thought of you doing the same? Does the idea of sharing what they're sharing make you feel uncomfortable? Does it stop you from living life the way you want with authenticity and confidence? If you feel uncomfortable or shy when someone shares something vulnerable with you, that may be a sign that something could use some healing in you, if you want to explore it. It's a great way to tell just what you need to work on in yourself. Full expression can make you feel lighter and stronger at the same time, but it isn't always easy to show up that authentically. In the second segment, I read a letter from someone I call Larry. He said he can't get his girlfriend's two-night stand out of his head. It's a relationship that began and end way before they met but he still has an issue with it. There are some factors involved in thinking about your ex's past and getting jealous or angry or feeling other negative emotions. Those factors are images and thoughts that repeat themselves by staring into the rear view mirror. Where should your focus be? How can you even focus on the present moment when you can't get yourself out of a past that isn't even your own? Finally, during the closing segment, I teach some techniques on building rapport and share how building rapport isn't just something to learn and try out with others, it's also something you can watch people do to you. After all, it's better to be prepared so you can tell when someone is using the very same techniques on you (it doesn't mean they know they're doing it, but it's good to know how it can be done!) Today's episode is brought to you by getoutofthemess.com. Real attorneys answering your questions for a very low monthly rate.

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0:00.0

You are listening to the overwhelmed brain.

0:02.6

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Are you annoyed by affirmations?

0:18.2

Are you tired of that same old rehashed personal growth advice that all seems to boil down to,

0:24.8

think positively and all your problems will go away.

0:28.4

If affirmations feel like lies and positive thinking feels like denial, then I want you to get ready.

0:35.4

The overwhelmed brain is here to help you create the life you want now. Hello, this is Paul Kolyani, personal empowerment coach, and host of this show called The Overwhelmed

0:58.1

brain.

0:59.1

This is the Personal Growth Show for the Critical Thinker.

1:01.4

On every episode, we talk about practical down to earth steps

1:05.3

to help you improve your mood and keep you sane in this powerful journey we call life.

1:12.2

I want to help you bridge the gap between your emotions and

1:14.6

reason causing you to discover why you do the things you do and what you can do to

1:19.1

reach higher levels of happiness and lower levels of stress and overwhelm.

1:23.4

Everything I talk about in this show should not be mistaken for actual medical

1:26.2

advice or treatment and is intended to be for informational and educational purposes

1:29.8

only.

1:30.8

I'm getting good at reading that fast. Always consult a physician, of course I screw it up,

1:37.0

always consult a physician before making any changes to your medical treatment.

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