I amla your host for this journey. I was a hopeless love a

hollic but just could not get my love to work. Then after a series of heartbreaks and deep heartache, I finally got clear about

what love is and what it is not. I want to share some of what I've learned about lover holism.

Welcome to the R spot, a production of Shandaland audio in partnership with I Heart Radio. Blessings and greetings welcome to the R spot the place we come to discuss, explore, examine, and investigate ourselves and other people about relationships, all kinds of relationships.

I am Yamla, your host, your guide, and hopefully your support for your journey

into what can be one of the most complicated areas of life. We all just want to be seen and heard and

love. We all need to be accepted for who we are just as we are when it comes to relationships.

And whether it's a family relationship, a loving or intimate relationship, even the relationship we're having with ourselves.

Acceptance and acknowledgement are the two things that are often missing.

The challenge is that when we cannot or do not acknowledge the

truth of who we are or accept ourselves just as we are, it's pretty safe to consider that we cannot and will not experience

acceptance or the acknowledgement that we crave in our relationships with others. So why is that? Just why is that Miss Yamla? Well, what I've learned for myself from myself and about myself is that if I don't give it I don't give it I shall not receive it because I

don't give it I shall not receive it because every relationship I have is a function of the relationship I am having with myself.

Now that's true for me. I think it's true for everybody, but some of us don't recognize that.

I have a deep need to know myself.

That means whatever is missing, broken, and balanced is functional within me,

is going to show up in every relationship around me because it's called cause and effect. and that is one of the laws of life

whether we know it or not or believe it or not now when it comes to intimate

loving relationships we often make the mistake of trying to get what we want, what we need, what we think will make us feel better from the outside.

And we look for partners, and we make them responsible to fill the hole in our soul.

Ah, wrong, that approach, okay? You can never get from the outside what you believe is missing inside.

Unfortunately, so many of us spend the majority of our time and energy looking out and doing out there that we have no clue not an inkling or an idea about who we are on the inside.

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