And when you're not communicating your needs is actually a form of detachment.

You're creating a wedge between you and somebody else because you're not placing trust in them

to be able to handle who you really are. Are you the type of person who feels you give too much in your relationships?

Doesn't just have to be romantic relationships, it could be with friends, family,

you feel that you're a giver and ultimately that gets taken advantage of.

Maybe in the process your needs don't get met.

You give so much and then you somehow forget yourself in the process

and you can end up feeling extremely resentful.

It comes out in passive aggressive ways or maybe one day you even explode.

Right?

And then the person in front of you says, who is this? I don't know this person because we haven't been giving them a true

impression of what our needs are along the way so now they don't recognize us. Now why do we do this?

Whenever I talk to women about this, there's often the logic that, well, it's because I'm a giver.

It's because I'm a nurturer by nature.

So I like doing those things for people.

I like showing up for people.

It's just who I am.

I'm a very loving person. I don't want to cause pain to those people. I love those people. And anyway, I can handle it. You know, I'm a giving person and yes, sometimes they do things that upset me, but I can live with it. It's okay, but of course they can't,

because it's like this slow drip torture where eventually you suffer so much in your resentment that that's when that extreme reaction comes about.

Here's what's interesting to me. People give that logic of, well, it's just because I'm a loving person

and I am a giving person, so I kind of forget about myself.

And it's not that it's not true that that type of person is giving.

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