Do women really want men that are vulnerable? Do women really desire men that are open emotionally,

that are constantly sharing what they're feeling and sharing their emotions and being vulnerable

with them in a relationship? Is that really what they're asking for or is it something different

that they're really looking for? Because there's this notion in the mainstream rhetoric and

narrative that looks at the problems that men are facing today socially, right, that male

culture and masculine culture is facing today, right? The rising rates of suicide, the fact that

more men commit suicide than women on an average of three to four

times, the fact that, you know, there are more men in prison there than women, there are more

homeless men than women, there are more male addicts than women, you know, the fact that less men are

going to college, less men are entering into the labor force than ever before. More men are

living at home than ever before. Less men in their 20s are having sex getting laid than ever

before. And so there's a lot of these stats and this information that gets put out and the mainstream

rhetoric that is returned is, well, if men were just more vulnerable,

then they wouldn't have those problems, right? If men were just more emotionally adept

and emotionally attuned, then they wouldn't be experiencing those issues. And this filters into how

a lot of men think about their relational problems and what a lot of women say about

how you should solve your relational problems, right? So like on an individual level, if you're

having problems in your relationship, again, the narrative is you should just be more vulnerable.

You should just be more emotional. You should share your emotions more. And I think in large

part, this notion, this idea that your problems will be fixed as a man, that our problems collectively

as men will be solved if we're more vulnerable comes from this sort of female and feminized

narrative and idea that how we define men should

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