Hi my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to the Daily Motivation Show.

Everybody's out for themselves. It's just the more sophisticated you are, the harder it is to tell.

Altruism is the best medicine for your stress hormones.

That when you give and other people benefit,

you matter. As opposed to I need to take advantage of this person.

Because that made me feel awful about doing that.

But I shape you by what I notice about you. And I clearly do it with my children. And I clearly do it with my wife.

I can, my wife has red hair. I can get her to yell at me. Or I can notice what I like and make her smile.

Yeah.

And it's that manipulative sort of, but it's in a good way.

Right.

I'm in training to be a child psychiatrist 1986. My son is seven. He's hard for me. He's

oppositional. I adopted him when he was two and a half. He's the persistent type no matter what I say. at him

when he was two and a half. He's the persistent type, no matter what I say,

argue with me. And I didn't feel close to him. And I was feeling bad.

And I'm talking to my supervisor, and she's like, you have to spend more time

with them.

And so I took him to a place.

I was doing my training in Hawaii

and took him to Sea Life Park, which is where they have sea animal shows,

sort of like sea world, and went to the dolphin show and that was great,

and the killer rail show, and that was fun,

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