Do Marriage Intensives Work? [215]
Flying Free
Natalie Hoffman
5 • 1K Ratings
🗓️ 21 March 2023
⏱️ 31 minutes
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Summary
Marriage intensives: What are they? Do they work? Are they worth the money? Can a marriage intensive change an abuser? I get these questions often, and I asked the same questions myself. In fact, I believed in marriage intensives so fully that I spent $7,500 just for a man to take pictures of my angry face and talk about his own practice and family for one-third of the time. (Need context? Me too, girl. Go listen to the episode!)
Let’s discuss whether a marriage intensive is helpful when dealing with an abusive husband, whether it helped my marriage personally, and then some things you can do without spending $7,500 to “save” your marriage. I’ve got a list. A very fun list.
Key Points From This Episode:
- Why God doesn’t just change our abusive husbands.
- How doing your own healing work and having your own back is going to level-up your life.
- My own experience with marriage intensives.
- Finally, the answer to the age-old question: “Do marriage intensives work?” and why I believe they do or don’t in certain situations.
- A list of ten ways to save your marriage that I found off of google, and why these strategies don’t work when you’re dealing with an abuser.
- My personal, fun list of ten ways to “save” your marriage when dealing with an abuser. (You’ll just be a shell of yourself after following this list for the rest of your life. No biggie.)
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| 0:00.0 | Hi, this is Natalie Hoffman of Flying Free Now. |
| 0:07.0 | And you're listening to the Flying Free Podcast, |
| 0:11.0 | a support resource for Women of faith, looking for hope and healing from hidden |
| 0:16.4 | emotional and spiritual abuse. |
| 0:19.1 | Welcome to episode 215 of the Flying Free Podcast. Today I want to talk about marriage |
| 0:29.2 | intensives. What are they? Do they work? Are they worth the money? I started thinking about this |
| 0:37.5 | when someone made a comment and I don't remember if they made this comment on my blog or maybe it was my Facebook page, but basically |
| 0:46.8 | they asked, are you saying that there is no hope for an abusive marriage, that there is no hope that these men can change. |
| 0:57.0 | Now, interestingly enough, at the time that I was reading this comment, I was also watching my daughter's basketball game |
| 1:04.7 | and the score was 21 to 39 with two minutes left in the game. Now if I was a |
| 1:11.5 | betting person I would not place money on the losing team at this |
| 1:16.3 | point. Would it be possible for the losing team to win? I mean maybe, technically I guess it's possible, but based on the past history of how the |
| 1:26.2 | game had been going so far, it was not likely. And I am not going to make a bet on those odds. |
| 1:35.0 | Are we not trusting God if we choose not to fling our body into the Grand Canyon? |
| 1:42.0 | I mean, is it possible that something could break our |
| 1:45.9 | fall and we could survive? Possibly. But are we going to bet on those odds? |
| 1:52.4 | Most people would say no. But are we going to bet on those odds? |
| 1:53.0 | Most people would say no. |
| 1:56.0 | So let's apply this to abusive marriages. |
| 1:59.0 | Most of the women I work with have been in an abusive marriage for 10 years or more and I would say that |
| 2:05.8 | well over 50% of them have been in their abuse of marriages for over two decades. |
| 2:11.5 | These are the ones that are saying, wait a minute, are you saying |
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