Discovering Your Wants and Needs

Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson

Being Well

Self-improvement, Education, Mental Health, Health & Fitness

4.8 • 2.7K Ratings

🗓️ 19 September 2022

⏱️ 64 minutes

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Summary

Everyone has needs, but many people find it difficult to identify what authentically matters to them. Even when we can identify them, shame or fear often stops us from expressing those needs to others or taking the practical steps that would help us achieve them. Meeting our needs is a major source of well-being, and people who can identify their needs are more likely to get them met. On today’s episode of Being Well, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson focus on how to look inside, and figure out what you really need. They discuss different frameworks for categorizing our needs, what to do when we are confused by our desires, and how to get in touch with what you really want. Watch the Episode: Prefer watching video? You can watch this episode on YouTube. Key Topics: 0:00: Introduction 2:05: Common features among people who struggle to name their desires 7:05: Three basic steps to relate to wants and needs 8:00: Different frameworks for categorizing wants and needs 21:00: What helped Rick get in touch with his own wants and needs? 28:00: An experiential exercise 35:10: Why addressing your needs and wants is not just naval gazing 38:40: Forrest’s suggestions based on his own experience 45:25: What to do when what we want is probably not best for us 51:40: Creating a personal manifesto 54:30: Recap New Course From Rick! Learn the lessons of a lifetime in the new and improved Foundations of Wellbeing 2.0 program. This yearlong, online program teaches you how to grow the 12 key inner strengths that lead to lasting wellbeing during difficult times. Our New Year's sale is running now, and you can use the code BeingWell25 to get an additional 25% off the purchase price. Sponsors: Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! Want to sleep better? Try the Calm app! Visit calm.com/beingwell for 40% off a premium subscription. Connect with the show: Subscribe on iTunes Follow Forrest on YouTube Follow us on Instagram Follow Forrest on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Visit Forrest's website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Hey everyone, welcome to Being Well, I'm Forrest Tansen.
0:10.6	If you're new to the podcast, thanks for joining us today.
0:13.3	This is where we explore the practical science of personal growth.
0:16.8	And if you've listened before, welcome back.
0:19.1	I'm joined today as usual by Dr. Rick Tansen, Rick is a clinical psychologist, he's a
0:23.5	best-selling author, and he's also my dad.
0:26.1	So dad, how are you doing today?
0:27.6	I'm really good for us and looking forward to this topic.
0:30.7	Yeah, very, very much the same, today we're going to be exploring a lot of material related
0:36.2	to our wants and needs, because everybody has wants and needs.
0:40.6	These range from our basic biological needs to more complex psychological needs, like
0:45.2	the need to be supported by other people, feel good at what we do, and generally feel
0:49.8	like we're the ones who control how our life turns out.
0:53.2	For some people, those wants and needs are right at the surface, they've never found
0:56.7	the challenging to have a feeling for their own desires in life.
1:00.0	But even when we do know what we want, it's easy for fear and shame to get in the way
1:04.8	of expressing it to other people, or to prevent us from taking the practical steps that would
1:09.8	get us where we want to go.
1:12.2	And then there are other people who've struggled for much of their life to have an authentic
1:15.5	sense of their own needs.
1:18.0	People who are good at identifying their needs are more likely to get them met, both because
1:22.0	they can deliberately pursue them and because they can better communicate them to other
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