What do you want in your life? It's a very hard question answer.

You're going to have to put some effort into your life. Set up some aims for yourself.

Goals that you actually value. You need to be motivated to do that. If you're extroverted,

you want friends. If you're agreeable, you want an intimate relationship. If you're a

disagreeable, you want to win competitions. If you're open, you want to engage in creative

activity. If you're high neuroticism, you want security. So now you've got your thing

to aim at. I think, well, I'm motivated because I got my thing to aim at. You're not as

motivated as you could be, because you don't yet have your thing to run away from.

Because if you really want to be motivated, you want to be going somewhere,

and you want to be not going somewhere else. You got to aim at something. Otherwise,

your life is meaningless. Well, what should you aim at? Well, pick something. Aim at it.

As you move toward it, you'll get wiser. Then maybe your aim will change. That's okay.

But at least it'll change in an informed way. Discipline yourself in one dimension. See what

happens. In some sense, life is a game. The analogy is that in life, like in sports,

you're setting forth a name and then arranging your perceptions and your actions in pursuit of

it. And then you also generally do it while cooperating and competing with other people.

That's also the game-like element as well. Okay, so once you get your goal structure set up,

you think, okay, if I could have this life, it looks like that might be worth living,

despite the fact that it's going to be anxiety-provoking and threatening, and there's going to be some

suffering and loss involved, and all of that. The goal is to have a vision for your life,

such that all things considered, that justifies your effort. Put yourself in the right frame of

mind. Treat yourself like you're someone responsible for helping. You're someone that you are responsible

...