Different Sex Drives and Compatibility in the Bedroom: Xander and Vanessa Marin Episode 167
EmPowered Couples with The Freemans
Aaron & Jocelyn Freeman
5.0 • 589 Ratings
🗓️ 17 June 2021
⏱️ 39 minutes
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Summary
No matter the stage of relationship you are in, it can seem like you and your partner have different sex drives. Often we think this means frequency, but in this episode we interview Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist, and her husband Xander who collaborates with her on content, to discover just what sex drive and compatability means.
In this episode you will realize the different forms and types of intimacy, how to raise your satisfaction in your sex life, and most imprtantly how to bring up this conversation with your partner. No matter where your satisfaction is now or how compatibility you feel, you will be able to take the steps to having a more open and pleasurable sex life and drive together.
Questions Asked in this Interview:
- It would be easy to assume that "sex drive" is just the level of desire and freqency for sex. But what does it really mean?
- Do you see that most couple of the same or different sex drives?
- Is it biologically true that your sex drive diminishes with age (for women)? Or what are things that get in the way of sexual satisfaction?
- Do you think people should say "YES" to their partner's attempt to have sex (if they don't feel like it)?
- What should a partner say if they aren't enjoying (or are just bored with) certain things in the bedroom without hurting their partner?
- What are two new questions a couple can ask each other to take the next steps to a more understanding and satisfying sex life?
Connect More With the Vanessa:
Instagram: @Vanessamarintherapy
Learn more about her courses and sex drive guides: vmtherapy.com
Resources For Your Relationship:
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Hello and welcome to the Empower Couples podcast where here you get modern, non-boring relationship advice for you and your partner to communicate like pros, fight smarter, and stay on the same team. |
| 0:10.6 | No matter the challenge that you face, I am one of your hosts, Erin Freeman. |
| 0:13.3 | And I'm Jocelyn Freeman, but you all just know us as the Freemans. |
| 0:16.5 | And today's topic is about different sex drives and compatibility in the bedroom. This is the third |
| 0:23.9 | of the three-part series that we've been doing about sex and intimacy and rebuilding trust |
| 0:29.7 | with having guests. And today you are going to get to know Xander and Vanessa Marin. They are |
| 0:35.7 | an incredible couple on social media. We follow them and they get very |
| 0:39.5 | honest, very raw about sex and intimacy and sex drives and keeping the spark alive in a realistic |
| 0:48.3 | way. Like they talk about sex and intimacy in a very realistic way and she actually is a sex therapist. So she's trained in this. |
| 0:56.8 | She does this for a living. And her husband Xander collaborates with her on the content to provide |
| 1:02.0 | a male perspective. And he is very honest as well about some of the things that men encounter in this topic. |
| 1:08.0 | So you're going to love this. We're going to be talking about those differences in sex drives. Is it normal to have different sex drives between you two? And also, |
| 1:15.8 | what if you're feeling like there's some incompatibility with your desires and what you prefer? |
| 1:21.1 | So let's dive in and get to know this incredible couple. |
| 1:27.7 | Well, Zander and Vanessa, thank you so much for joining us on the Empowered Couples podcast |
| 1:32.7 | today. |
| 1:33.7 | Thanks so much for having us. |
| 1:35.1 | We're really excited to be here. |
| 1:36.5 | Yeah, so glad we're here. |
| 1:37.8 | And excited to dive into a topic that some people maybe feel like they blush when they |
| 1:43.0 | talk about it. They don't know who to ask. And they all heard in your bio just how you two are the people that talk so openly about sex and intimacy and sex drive and orgasms and all the things that make people blush. So we actually want to jump up. |
| 2:01.7 | Or be quiet. |
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