Did I Just Have A Heart Attack? How to Make Change Last.

The Virtual Couch

Tony Overbay LMFT

Education, Mental Health, Health & Fitness, Self-improvement

5 • 643 Ratings

🗓️ 2 June 2021

⏱️ 29 minutes

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Tony talks about a recent health scare "wait, am I seriously having a heart attack?" and how that led to his desire to be more present, grateful and to make changes in his life. But do major life scares, events, even near-death-experiences (NDEs) lead to long-lasting change? Tony reviews this 5 steps of the "Transtheoretical Model of Change" or TTM from the article "Why it's Hard to Change Unhealthy Behavior - and Why You Should Keep Trying" from Harvard Medical School's Harvard Health Publishing site. https://www.health.harvard.edu/newsletter_article/why-its-hard-to-change-unhealthy-behavior-and-why-you-should-keep-trying (https://www.health.harvard.edu/newsletter_article/why-its-hard-to-change-unhealthy-behavior-and-why-you-should-keep-trying) Please subscribe to The Virtual Couch YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/c/TheVirtualCouchPodcast/ (https://www.youtube.com/c/TheVirtualCouchPodcast/) and follow The Virtual Couch on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/virtualcouch/ (https://www.instagram.com/virtualcouch/) This episode of The Virtual Couch is sponsored by http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch (http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch) With the continuing “sheltering” rules that are spreading across the country PLEASE do not think that you can’t continue or begin therapy now. http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch (http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch) can put you quickly in touch with licensed mental health professionals who can meet through text, email, or videoconference often as soon as 24-48 hours. And if you use the link http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch (http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch) you will receive 10% off your first month of services. Please make your own mental health a priority, http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch (http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch)offers affordable counseling, and they even have sliding scale options if your budget is tight. Tony's FREE parenting course, “Tips For Parenting Positively Even In the Not So Positive Times” is available NOW. Just go to https://www.tonyoverbay.com/courses-2/ (https://www.tonyoverbay.com/courses-2/)and sign up today. This course will help you understand why it can be so difficult to communicate with and understand your children. You’ll learn how to keep your buttons hidden, how to genuinely give praise that will truly build inner wealth in your child, teen, or even in your adult children, and you’ll learn how to move from being “the punisher” to being someone your children will want to go to when they need help.Tony's new best-selling book "He's a Porn Addict...Now What? An Expert and a Former Addict Answer Your Questions" is now available on Kindle. https://amzn.to/38mauBoTony Overbay, is the co-author of "He's a Porn Addict...Now What? An Expert and a Former Addict Answer Your Questions" now available on Amazon https://amzn.to/33fk0U4 (https://amzn.to/33fk0U4). The book debuted in the number 1 spot in the Sexual Health Recovery category and remains there as the time of this record. The book has received numerous positive reviews from professionals in the mental health and recovery fields.You can learn more about Tony's pornography recovery program The Path Back by visiting http://pathbackrecovery.com (http://pathbackrecovery.com) And visit http://tonyoverbay.com (http://tonyoverbay.com) and sign up to receive updates on upcoming programs, and podcasts.Tony mentioned a product that he used to take out all of the "uh's" and "um's" that, in his words, "must be created by wizards and magic!

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0:00.0	Okay, here goes. I think it's been a little while since I have recorded a podcast where I wasn't quite sure if this one would actually see the light of day and that is not trying to be very dramatic.
0:10.8	Although the story I'm going to tell is going to sound a little bit dramatic, but truly that's not my intention.
0:15.5	It was about two or three weeks ago, and I remember this very well.
0:19.4	It was a Wednesday evening. And on Wednesday evenings
0:21.6	now, I have a group call for my Pathback Recovery Group, the online pornography recovery support group
0:27.5	that is one of my favorite things of the week. And I have a lot of people that I'm looking at
0:33.7	on Zoom, some people with their cameras on, some people with their cameras off. And I don't remember the particular topic we were talking about, but it was, the conversation
0:40.6	was going very well. And I was feeling very in the moment. And I remember all of a sudden,
0:44.8	I really started to have chest pain. And that's one of my biggest fears. I'm not going to lie.
0:50.2	I'm 51 and a half years old. I've been an avid ultra marathon runner. As long as I can remember, 20, 25 years.
0:57.0	And fitness has been one of my passions.
0:59.8	It's one of my core values.
1:01.8	But if, and I've heard other people have shared this experience as well.
1:05.5	But for those who really do, are almost consumed with fitness in this attempt to stay young forever, there's always that
1:12.7	fear. And I think it's because people will bring this up from time to time, but that you're
1:17.1	going to be that guy that is in good shape. And then you hear, you know, somebody says, oh,
1:21.2	my uncle had a heart attack running around the high school track. He was in great shape. And so you
1:26.9	do. you hear these
1:27.7	stories often because I think that that's just the way that we work as human beings. We want to
1:31.7	have some relatable story. And if someone isn't necessarily a runner, they will either talk about,
1:36.9	oh, so-and-so is a runner, somebody ran a marathon, if you run the Boston Marathon, that sort of thing,
1:41.2	or they'll tell you a story of someone they know that was a runner until
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