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Hi, that's Laura. How are you? Good. What can I help you with?

Thanks for taking my call. So my husband and I have been married for six years dating for 11 total about two years ago.

I found out he was cheating on me and we decided after a long road of figuring out I'd say long as about six months after I found out that

I finally decided that I wanted to make it work with him and he the entire time wanted to make it work and work on the relationship and the marriage.

That's a little man. That's a little vague sounding. How does one work on a marriage and make a marriage work when one realizes one spouse has been having an enduring affair? What do you work on? What exactly is working on it mean?

So we had gone to counseling right after I found out about the affair and we realized that there was no communication. He was working a ton and we just kind of like fell apart.

We were almost felt like we were roommates. So I guess when I say work on it just means get back to how we used to be before all this happened and just work on communicating with each other and spending time with each other and enjoying each other's company.

Like it always had been and after an affair it's not something that I ever thought I would do but we had a one year old one time when I found out at the time and at the time I was pregnant.

So now we have two kids and I wouldn't have even considered staying in the marriage if we didn't have kids but because of our children I wanted to try and keep the family unit together.

So you were pregnant with a one year old and he's having an affair. Wow.

And how did you find out about it?

Well so he was acting very funny. My intuition just kind of hit me after a while. He had always always worked 80, 90 hour work weeks but it had lately seemed to be.

What job requires 80 and 90 hours a week?

So he's a contractor and he works for himself.

He worked 14, 15, 16 hour days every single day, weekends, everything. He was always working and I think in the couple of counseling once they found out the affair happened I found out because we were communicating that he was, you know, we had our son at the time and he was afraid.

We had just purchased a home of a few years prior to that. I found out that, you know, he was scared that he wasn't going to be able to pay the mortgage and you know, make ends meet.

So he was just working and working and working and he just became a workaholic. He was just obsessed with making more money and making more money and I didn't realize how bad it was.

And he just got into this, I don't know, this obsession, I guess. And then we fell apart because of that because we never saw each other and never talked and so then we just we just lost who we were as a couple, which was great.

Yeah, you know, we had a great relationship. It was wonderful. It was just, I think ever since we bought our house, it had just kind of gone downhill. I, you know, I was treating him poorly and he he's the type of person to kind of just shut down and he just doesn't say anything after after, you know, like I yell at him or whatever.

So I found out, you know, that's something I need to work on. So anyway, I guess where I'm going with this is that I've been wanting to work with this with him. He's doing all the work.

He, he truly, and I wouldn't say this. I'm not, you know, trying to make him anything better than he is because he's a human, but he really has been doing everything that you would want to see somebody who has done this, do in a marriage. He's, he comes home at six o'clock every night.

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