Desire, Difference, and the Path to Intimacy - Part 1

Conversations with Dr. Jennifer

Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife

Self-improvement, Education, Mental Health, Sexuality, Health & Fitness

4.4 • 978 Ratings

🗓️ 17 December 2025

⏱️ 52 minutes

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Summary

CHRISTMAS SALE! All full-length courses 20% Off! Falling in love is a gift. Staying in love requires something more—the willingness to grow into someone who can hold both connection and individuality without losing either. In this conversation with Taylor Church of the Of Stone and Clay Podcast, Dr. Jennifer draws from her new book and research on sexuality to explore how we move from the magic of falling in love to the deeper work of creating lasting intimacy. She offers wisdom on navigating difference, sustaining desire, and why the challenges of marriage are not necessarily failures but invitations to grow. Listen to the full episode to learn more about: Sexual integration and what it means for intimate relationships How shame shapes our experience of sexuality Why vibrant living matters more than physical perfection for attraction The difference between accommodation and genuine choice in intimacy ______ Only a few days left to order That We Might Have Joy in time for Christmas! SAVE $200 on 2026 events with code JFF2026

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0:00.0	we're often attracted to difference. Aeros energy is drawn to mystery and difference. And so we often
0:05.5	seek someone who does the world differently than we do. When you're up against those differences,
0:09.8	it can be really frustrating. It's like, not only you're not making me happy, you're making me
0:13.9	unhappy, and maybe I married the wrong person. It hurts and it's disillusioning. And some people just grow into resentment and they get
0:24.4	into power struggles and they don't understand that nothing is going wrong and that these
0:30.3	differences are an opportunity to grow into someone that can know and accept another. And that is the work of marriage.
0:47.9	Welcome to Conversations with Dr. Jennifer, a collection of interviews on the topics of relationships,
0:56.0	sexuality, spirituality, and more, all featuring Dr. Finlayson Fife.
1:02.3	Hey everyone, it's Christy, Dr. Finlayson Fife's assistant, and I have commandeered the microphone
1:07.2	to let you know that you have just a few days left to pick up copies of her new
1:11.5	book that we might have joy from Amazon and still get them delivered in time for Christmas.
1:17.1	If you're listening to this podcast, my guess is you have already read the book cover to cover
1:20.9	multiple times yourself. But what I love most about the book besides those searingly insightful
1:26.9	questions at the end of most
1:28.1	chapters, is that it's the perfect way to introduce your friends and family to Dr. Finlayson
1:32.8	Fyfe's work. For less than $20, you can gift this masterpiece of a book that she has poured
1:37.8	her heart and soul into for the past five years and introduce people to the concepts and
1:43.1	theories that you and I both know will change their
1:45.8	lives. So click the link in the show notes and do it quickly because there are only a few days
1:49.4	left to order and get it in time for Christmas. Thanks everyone. Merry Christmas. Welcome
1:58.0	back to the Stone and Clay podcast. This is episode 142. Today we have an awesome guest.
2:03.6	This is Dr. Jennifer Finlayson Fife, which just rolls right off the tongue, doesn't it?
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