Welcome to this week's listeners questions with Denise Welch, where we are actually covering pretty much a bit of everything.

Okay, first question is from Lisa and Derby. Hi, Denise and Caroline. I'm the mother of two teenagers. It's been five years since I split with their dad and I've made efforts to maintain an amicable relationship with him. Now that my kids have grown up, do I still need to continue this? I personally feel I don't need to have any contact with him,

but I'm concerned about upsetting my children even though they're adults now.

That's interesting, isn't it? Do I still need to continue this? I personally feel I don't need to have any contact with him, but I'm concerned about upsetting my children even though they're adults now.

That's interesting, isn't it? It's a good one for you because you have a very, very blended family. When you ever have events and things, you're always there with... We do. I mean, it's very different for me than it is. What's the lady called? Lisa. Lisa. Hi Lisa, it's a very different situation because it sounds like her

relationship ended very acrimoniously and she really had to try. Ours was just the time had come,

you know. Having said that, there were still issues with new partners and everything, but I have

worked very hard to maintain a friendship of sorts with their dad

because I think that no matter what age you are, you don't have to go on holiday together.

No.

You don't have to go out for dinner together.

But when there is something like an event that your kids are part of, whether it be

Louis and acting or Matty or Lewis and what he's doing, there is something nice about being

able to share the highs and the lows of your children's life with their dad. So I think that,

Lisa, if you really find it uncomfortable, then it's not going to benefit the kids. No. Because they're old enough to know that this is really painful for you. But I think that if you can just be cordial enough to be able to be in the same room together, it's worth doing that. It's like you say, you don't have to go on holiday with them. No. And obviously, if there's been any kind of, like you say, acrimonis or abuse or anything like that, then it's just a clean break.

Don't even... It's worth doing that. It's like you say, you don't have to go on holiday with them. No. And obviously, if there's been any kind of, like you say, acrimonis or abuse or anything like that, then it's just a clean break.

Don't even think about it.

And, you know, you say to the kids, or we try to stay together for you. And most kids will say, you shouldn't have done that. You shouldn't have done it. So, but I think that when you can, it is nicer for the kids even as adults.

It's always nice for the kids even as adults.

It's always nice for the kids because they say emotionally, when you're dealing with your parents,

because I'm a child of divorce, when you're dealing with your parents,

you stay the same age you were when they divorced emotionally.

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