Deena’s Birth Plan: Birthing Without the Bullsh*t - Autonomy, Advocacy, and Asking for What You Need
After Bedtime with Big Little Feelings
Dear Media and Big Little Feelings
4.7 • 5.7K Ratings
🗓️ 23 July 2025
⏱️ 48 minutes
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Summary
If you’ve ever given birth, are about to give birth, or love someone who’s about to, this episode is a MUST. Deena opens up about how she’s preparing for baby #3, and this time? It’s not about a hospital bag or the perfect birth plan. It’s about mental health. Nervous system regulation. Self-advocacy. And building a postpartum setup that actually supports her.
In this raw and radically honest conversation, Kristin and Deena go deep on:
- What Deena learned from two very different birth experiences
- How she’s breaking the fear–tension–pain cycle with science-backed tools
- Why the key to a “good birth” isn’t epidural vs. unmedicated - it’s how you’re treated
- What it looks like to prep your partner and kids to support you after birth
- How to unapologetically ask for what you need - even when it’s uncomfortable
You’ll walk away feeling grounded, empowered, and ready to take up space in your birth and postpartum experience - because you deserve to be held, seen, and supported. This isn’t about being perfect. It’s about being powerful.
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| 0:00.0 | The following podcast is a Dear Media production. |
| 0:05.2 | Okay, welcome back to After Bedtime. |
| 0:08.1 | And if you're about to give birth or you've ever given birth, this episode is for you |
| 0:13.5 | because today I'm letting you into my personal prep for baby number three. |
| 0:17.9 | And this time, my pre-baby checklist is less about stuff and more about my |
| 0:23.4 | mental health. When I was pregnant the first time, I prepared by reading books and buying |
| 0:28.2 | nursing bras, but this time, I'm preparing my nervous system. I'm preparing to take up space. |
| 0:35.0 | I'm preparing to feel scared and safe. This is how I'm preparing to get |
| 0:39.1 | birth, not perfectly, but powerfully. So let's get into it. Welcome to after bedtime, where the |
| 0:46.2 | house is finally quiet, but the real noise begins. The thoughts, the questions, the wondering if |
| 0:52.3 | you're doing any of this right. We're Kristen and Dina, child behavior experts, moms, and co-founders of big little feelings. |
| 1:00.0 | And we're not here to give you more pressure or perfect parenting energy. |
| 1:03.5 | Nope. We're here to tell the truth, the unfiltered, beautiful, brutal truth about what it means to raise kids and re-raise ourselves in the process. |
| 1:13.0 | Because parenting isn't just about sleep schedules and snack hacks. |
| 1:16.4 | It's about healing. It's about breaking cycles. |
| 1:19.2 | It's about becoming the kind of adult you want your kids to grow up to be. |
| 1:22.8 | This is the place where we say the quiet parts out loud, and we're so glad that you're here. |
| 1:28.8 | Ooh, Dina, what a week. |
| 1:30.8 | What a week. |
| 1:31.9 | What a week. What a week. |
| 1:33.2 | Is this one of the biggest weeks of our lives? |
| 1:36.8 | It honestly is, because we put two hard years. |
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