Welcome to Narcissist Apocalypse, everyone. I am Brandon Chadwick, and today we'll be doing a debrief of

Remy's story, and we'll be doing the key takeaways, key themes, the fear, obligation, guilt,

and shame of Remy's story. But before we get to that,

for those of you who have not listened to Remy's story, Remy is someone who reconnected with

someone from high school after both of them had been married. They both had children. And early on,

the attention that Remy was getting felt pretty exciting and this person was fun

and they were flattering and this person really connected to this younger version of Remy because

she knew this person in high school and this person was one of the cool kids and she remembered

her abuser here as just being this good-looking guy, this popular guy.

So when they started dating, she felt chosen.

But quickly here, the abuser, he wanted a lot of her time.

He created an expectation that she should always be available when he wanted access to her.

And when she was not available, even because she was putting her kids to bed, he treated it like she had done something wrong.

But they were having a lot of fun.

This person was a fun guy.

So you're getting these moments here, but this person is also fun.

And as time went on, the abuser accused her of being involved with her ex. He questioned normal

co-parenting contact. He was watching her communication. He pressured her time. He became physically

abusive at one point.

He also used jealousy as this constant weapon against her.

And eventually, Remy started to see that many of his accusations were connected to his own behavior.

He was projecting. So while he was accusing her of a lot of things, he was also having really explicit

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