Welcome to Narcissist Apocalypse, everyone. I am Brandon Chadwick, and today we will be doing a debrief on Ellie's

story, giving you the key takeaways of Ellie's story. And before we go into those key takeaways,

for those of you who have not listened to Ellie's story yet, here is a summary of her story.

So Ellie grew up in a very unsafe and dysfunctional family. Her mother was emotionally abusive

and made her feel as though nothing she ever did was good enough. And her father was an abusive

alcoholic and as the oldest child, she learned to monitor danger, care for her

siblings, and really stayed quiet as a way to survive. She became a perfectionist who really

excelled at school while really struggling with shame in low self-worth and also in eating disorder.

And as an adult, Ellie became a nurse and built a life filled

with running and yoga, going to the beach, and she was doing work that she loved. And more than

anything, she wanted to feel loved and have someone to be proud of her. She never had that as a

child. And then she met her future

husband while they were working in an emergency room. He appeared quiet, competent, just different

from the men that she had dated. But this person was mirroring her interests and created the

impression that they just shared the same values and the same

lifestyle. And the relationship really moved quickly. And once Ellie moved in, the person that

she thought she knew just disappeared completely. His alcohol use became severe. And then his family

comes in here and minimizes his drinking,

defends his behavior, and really expects Ellie just to stay silent. And she became isolated

while his relatives mocked her. They excluded her and treated her as if she was the problem

whenever she was asking for help. And later,

Ellie does discover that her husband has been unfaithful throughout the relationship, including

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