Welcome to Dear Prudence, I'm your Prudence,

Janay Desmond Harris.

Today we'll be discussing whether the following categories of people are totally unreasonable.

One, moms who bring their kids to wineries.

Two, boyfriends who refuse to hard launch their girlfriends on social media.

And three, husbands who are really suspicious of their wives' friendships with single men.

This week, joining me at a co-host of Slate's I see why am I, Rachel Hampton and

Candice Lim. I see why am I is a really fun show that keeps you up to date on

everything happening on the internet. In other words, they're online so you don't have to be.

Welcome, Rachel and Candice. Hi. Hello. So, before we get started, I want each of you, I'll start with you, Candace, to offer one piece of totally unsolicited advice.

I guess mine is always used the private tab. I am a chrome browser user and what shocks me is when people I'm not saying they're doing nefarious stuff but let's say you've got a lot of cookies okay you've got a lot of

you know ads that are trying to get to you and trying to influence you and trying to tell you to

buy the thing that you just talked about I'm just saying guys why isn't everyone in private tab life anymore because it's

actually not me hiding my history from someone else it's me hiding my history from

my future self you see see see I actually I think this is probably wrong and I'm probably a weirdo.

I kind of like the personalized shopping recommendations.

Like if I'm not actively shopping, I'll click on the sweater just to be like, yeah, more of this this is the kind of thing I'll be buying in fall just so you know I do like it I actually I don't know I don't give a damn about my privacy and I know it's wrong but yeah I like seeing things

that the internet knows I want. What about you Rachel? I think both of those

positions are very fair. I have long been an advocate of Instagram ads because they know me

so well to the point that they're now serving me things that are sustainably made instead

of fast fashion because they know I won't click on cider

ads anymore and it's been very hopeful.

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