Dear LK: My son is upset his brother didn't make him best man. Should I intervene?

Life Kit

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🗓️ 3 November 2022

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A mother debates whether she should talk to the groom about the issue. Catherine Newman, an etiquette columnist for Real Simple magazine, gives her advice.

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0:00.0	Today on the show, my son is getting married and didn't include his older brother in the wedding.
0:05.1	Big brother's hurt and mom is stuck in between. What now?
0:08.1	Dear life kit. Dear life kit. Dear life kit. Dear life kit. I have a question for you.
0:13.8	This is Dear Life Kit from NPR. How can I become a better caretaker? How do I deal with my
0:19.6	parents' unrealistic expectations? And we're getting personal. I'm catching feelings for someone,
0:27.0	but they're married. I'm your host, Andy Tagle. Every episode, we answer one of your most pressing
0:33.1	and intimate anonymous questions with expert advice. It's hard to be her and that feel like something
0:38.8	needs to happen next. But sometimes it really doesn't. That's today's expert writer, Catherine
0:45.2	Newman. Catherine is the longtime writer of Real Simple's Modern Manor's etiquette column.
0:51.0	We are all big fans of her advice here at Life Kit. And we're looking forward to putting
0:56.0	the etiquette know how to the test for today's question about parenting and hurt feelings between
1:00.4	siblings. Stay tuned. Before we jump in, I would love to know. Do you ever feel stuck in the middle
1:07.5	with your kids? Oh, you mean between them? Between their relationship? No. And that's very
1:15.8	particular to who they are. It's not that I think I couldn't feel that way. I just happened not
1:20.4	to with my particular kids. I feel like the last time I felt stuck in the middle, they were like
1:25.5	fighting over play dough. But I'm so sympathetic. I know that it is like that for tons of people.
1:31.2	And I have felt stuck in the middle in other relationships. And it's a very sticky thing to feel
1:37.9	like you have either information that you're wondering if you should share or you know, to what
1:43.9	extent should you insert yourself? Absolutely. Disclose or not disclosed and tribune or not into
1:49.2	being. Yeah. I mean, those are really real questions. Like my dad just meddled in my relationship
1:55.2	with my brother in a way that I super appreciated. Actually, just shared some information that was
2:00.2	really useful for me to have. And it actually enabled us to just like move on with something that
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