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From NPR.

Hey, it's Mariel.

I have a family member who will not be named, who is a remote hog.

When we're gathered together as a fam, they want to watch what they want to watch.

Doesn't matter what anybody else wants to watch.

It's always been like this.

And every year on Christmas, they want to watch a Christmas story,

and then, unfailingly, some other films that I'm either tired of or not interested in.

I love them.

I do.

And I know this is not the most serious of problems.

But it drives me up a wall.

Somehow, though, realizing that this is going to happen every Christmas takes some of the sting out of it. I don't know if there's a way to

avoid stress during the holiday season, but I do think we can minimize it by being more

realistic about what to expect. Sahedj Korkoli is a therapist, writer, and founder of Brown Girl Therapy, a lot of her work centers around the experience of immigrants and their children. There's something about this time of year where we think about our family and we're like, oh, it's going to be fine. Everything's going to be great this year. It's like we wiped out our memory from last year and I'm like, wait, why do we think that?

If it happened in the last five years, why do you think it's going to be different all of a sudden?

I agree. No stress, unlikely, but are there ways to manage, minimize, and maybe have a slightly

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