Don't waste time on regret.

Regret is one of the experiences that we carry that inevitably only produces more of itself.

When we stay in the space of regretting an affair, regretting the lost relationship,

regretting what we should have done or should have said or the mistakes that we made that

led to something happening with our job or our career or our business or whatever it is.

That regret is trying to teach us something that we are often resisting.

You see, most people, when they experience regret for their actions or something that they should have done,

what they're not realizing is that it's not the regret that is the problem. It's the shame

that they are experiencing for their actions. Regret stays when you don't believe that you've

learned the lesson from what caused the regret in the first place.

Regret lingers when you haven't allowed yourself to grieve what transpired, the mistakes that

you made, the failure, the sadness from the loss, right? I see this all the time with men,

where you go through a breakup and you

go through the breakup because you acted needy because your insecurities got the best of you and you

push somebody away or you felt insecure in a way or you felt like you weren't deserving of

the relationship or the woman that you were with.

And so you started to sabotage. And eventually your sabotage pushed that person away to the

degree where you couldn't win them back, where nothing that you could say or do would get

them to come back into your life. And that's where regret enters because you regret and are ashamed of your

actions. And largely what I've seen is that most of you don't allow yourself to really

grieve the loss of not only the relationship, not only that person, but the loss of the

realization that you can no longer act as that person anymore.

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