Dating Apps, Red Flags & Bad Habits w/ Logan Ury

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Health & Fitness, Sexuality

4.2 • 6.7K Ratings

🗓️ 11 February 2025

⏱️ 54 minutes

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Summary

Logan Ury, the author of How to Not Die Alone and director of Relationship Science at Hinge, joins me to share her best tips for all things dating. Logan provides practical tips for avoiding dating blindspots, the drawbacks of unrealistic expectations, and algorithms to live by for finding a satisfying relationship. We discuss how ‘dealbreakers’ may be an excuse for avoiding connection, how attachment styles affect our dating outcomes, the paradox of choice in the dating world, and how to get out of the checklist mindset. She also breaks down the most common dating tendencies, shares strategies behind making the best decisions, explains why ‘the spark’ may be B.S., and even offers how-to advice for creating a powerful dating profile. Even if you’re not dating, you will learn techniques that will strengthen all your relationships. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why the spark is total BS—and what actually makes a relationship last How your dating type (romanticizer, maximizer, or hesitator) is messing with your love life The secret to making better choices in dating—so you can finally find your person Show Notes: More Logan Ury: Instagram | Twitter | Website For their buy 1 get 1 50% off deal, head to 3DayBlinds.com/SWE. To get 6 bottles of wine for $39.99, head to NakedWines.com/SWE and use code SWE for both the code AND PASSWORD. Buy Smart Sex New Paperback Cover Now! Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

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0:00.0	A great relationship is the culmination of good decisions.
0:10.0	Make good decisions. You propel yourself into a great relationship.
0:14.0	Make bad decisions and you repeat the same bad patterns over and over.
0:19.0	Okay, so it's not that I'm totally screwed by my history. It's not
0:23.1	that I'll never find love. It's that I've been making certain choices. And if I can understand
0:27.1	why and then make different choices in the future, I can wind up on a different path.
0:33.8	You're listening to Sex with Emily. I'm Dr. Emily and I'm here to help you prioritize your pleasure and liberate the conversation around sex.
0:43.0	Today, my guest is Logan Yuri, the author of How to Not Die Alone and Director of Relationship Science at Hinge,
0:50.6	joins me to share her best tips for all things dating.
0:54.3	She uses her psychology and behavioral science background at Harvard and Google as a current-day
1:00.2	dating coach.
1:01.5	We discuss the science of decision-making and how it impacts your dating behavior.
1:06.2	This gets good, you guys.
1:08.0	Logan provides practical tips for avoiding dating blind spots,
1:11.8	recognizing the perils of unrealistic expectations, sound familiar, and learning the algorithms
1:17.6	to live by for finding a satisfying relationship. We discuss how deal breakers may be an excuse
1:23.7	for avoiding connection, how attachment styles affect our dating outcomes, the paradox of
1:29.6	choice in the dating world, and how to get out of the checklist mindset. She also breaks down the
1:35.5	most common dating tendencies, hey all you maximizers out there, shares strategies behind making
1:41.0	the best decisions, explains why the spark may be BS and even offers how to
1:46.6	advice for creating a powerful dating profile. Even if you're not dating right now, you're going to find
1:51.6	a lot of fascinating tips that you can use in your day-to-day life, in your professional life,
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