Dating 101: Green and Red Flags, Your First Fight, Dealing With Rejection

Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson

Being Well

Education, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.8 • 2.7K Ratings

🗓️ 13 December 2021

⏱️ 65 minutes

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Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson expand their conversation focused on finding a long-term partner to include what traits to look for, and how to navigate early sticking points. They discuss life growth curves, how to manage early conflict, healthy approaches for dealing with rejection, and how to support those still navigating a difficult search. Watch the Episode: Prefer watching video? You can watch this episode on YouTube. From Dr. Hanson: The Foundations of Well-Being brings together the lessons of a lifetime of practice into one year-long online program. Our holiday sale is going on now, and podcast listeners can use the code BEINGWELL25 for another 25% off! Please don't hesitate to apply for a scholarship if you're in need. Key Topics: 0:00: Introduction 2:45: Green and red flags to look for in a partner 8:50: Pursuer-distancer dynamic 9:45: Shared growth curves--relationship as a process, not a person 12:50: Riding the river of practical daily life 19:25: Someone who brings out the best parts of you 25:25: Different kinds of romantic relationships 28:55: Rejection and feeling wanted 30:45: Asymmetry and power dynamics 34:40: Agency within the pain of rejection 40:05: Recognizing self-worth 45:00: Managing early conflict 51:50: The struggle to find a prospective partner 59:40: Recap Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors: Check out Woven Earth's line of sleep-supporting CBD products! Use code BEINGWELL20 for 20% off the purchase price of any of their products. Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! Want to sleep better? Try the legendary Calm app! Visit calm.com/beingwell for 40% off a premium subscription. Connect with the show: Subscribe on iTunes Follow Forrest on YouTube Follow us on Instagram Follow Forrest on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Visit Forrest's website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Hello and welcome to Being Well, I'm Forest Hanson. If you're new to the podcast, this is
0:11.6	where we explore the practical science of lasting well-being, and if you've listened
0:15.9	before, welcome back. Today we have the second of our two episodes devoted to topics related
0:23.2	to dating and finding the long-term partner that you've been looking for. To help us do
0:28.7	that, I'm joined today as usual by Dr. Rick Hanson, Rick is a clinical psychologist, a best-selling
0:34.2	author, and he's also my dad, which made the first conversation very interesting. So dad, how
0:39.7	are you doing today? I'm good, and I thoroughly like this topic partly because it really cuts through
0:46.6	a whole bunch of hocus-pocus, yakity, yak, and psychology and self-help, to some very real
0:53.5	way down on the trenches, kind of priorities for people. So I'm really glad we're doing this.
0:59.2	Totally right on. Today we're going to be focusing on some of the things that we frankly didn't
1:04.5	have time to cover in the previous episode. So we're going to talk about what to look for in a partner,
1:10.0	green flags and red flags, managing some of the early moments of conflict that can appear inside
1:15.6	of a relationship, dealing with rejection, and maybe even some kind of heartfelt case studies. We
1:22.8	receive a lot of emails from people about different topics related to this, and I kind of want to explore
1:28.0	one or two of those that have come up pretty frequently. So before we get into today's episode,
1:32.9	a couple of quick reminders. First, you can follow us everywhere on social media. I've included
1:38.0	links to that down below in the description of today's podcast. If you check that out,
1:42.5	second, if you'd rather be watching this episode right now, you can do so on my YouTube channel.
1:47.1	I've included a link to that as well. And then finally, if you'd like to support the podcast,
1:51.4	you can find us on Patreon. It's patreon.com slash being well podcast and for the cost of just a
1:57.5	couple cups of coffee a month, you can support the show and you'll receive a bunch of bonuses
2:03.1	in return. Before we get into today's episode, I want to give a little bit of a disclaimer.
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