This is the 10% happier podcast. I'm Dan Harris. Hello my fellow suffering beings how we doing around Valentine's Day as you all know we tend to

celebrate the romantic ideal roses chocolates expensive dinners little babies

firing arrows at unsuspecting people you get the picture

but anybody's actually been in a relationship knows that it's often

less than ideal

today we're gonna talk to the renowned and sometimes controversial sex and

relationships columnist Dan Savage about lots of thorny issues, how to handle

disappointment, how to handle jealousy, why so many couples lose their spark and

what to do about it, how to date in the era of

apps, why it's so hard for straight couples to talk about sex, he says, and his

contention that the idea of a couple is an illusion anyway.

Dan Savage has been writing the popular sex advice column Savage Love

for over 30 years.

He also hosts the Savage Love Cast and is the author of many many books in

2010. Dan and his husband founded the It Gets Better project which was designed to give

hope to LGBTQ kids and has been seen all over the world

and won an Emmy.

I found Dan to be very funny and very wise.

Heads up though that parts of this conversation are a little bit graphic if you've got

children around your muffs just to say we're doing a bunch of relationship

themed programming in the run-up to Valentine's Day. Dan Savage though is

coming right up.

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