Daddy Issues: Attachment Wounding, Dealing with Common Symptoms, and Becoming More Securely Attached

Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson

Being Well

Education, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness, Mental Health

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🗓️ 20 February 2023

⏱️ 87 minutes

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Summary

If you listen to a podcast like ours, you’re probably familiar with the phrase “daddy issues.” A more accurate way to understand daddy issues is as a form of attachment wounding, which describes situations where our adult relationships are affected by complicated, difficult, or traumatic experiences we had as a child. In this episode, Forrest and Dr. Rick explore what daddy issues are, how they relate to attachment theory, sexism and the broader social and historical context, different forms of attachment wounding, and a simple way to understand your attachment style. They then walk through four common sets of symptoms and challenges related to attachment wounding, and what a person can do to move toward secure attachment. Watch the Episode: Prefer watching video? You can watch this episode on YouTube. Key Topics: 0:00: Introduction 1:50: What are daddy issues? 6:35: Parental roles and symptoms of attachment wounding 13:35: How attachment patterns are created 19:35: Yearning for narcissistic supplies 22:10: Gendered dynamics, and the pejorative use of the phrase “daddy issues” 28:20: Claiming your power 31:15: Forming a coherent narrative, and looking for what was missing 34:50: A simple method for assessing your attachment style 41:50: Social support 44:10: Who you are to others, and meeting person to person 50:55: Situation #1: How to deal with fears of abandonment and being alone 55:00: Situation #2: “I need a lot of reassurance and external validation.” 58:10: Situation #3: Fears related to emotional vulnerability 1:05:15: Situation #4: “I keep dating the same (problematic) kind of person.” 1:10:30: Making deliberate effort 1:14:50: Recap Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. New Program From Rick! If you want to break old patterns and step out of the familiar scripts that hold you back, Rick's Change Your Mind online course is for you. It's a 6-week program starting March 18 designed to help you step out of old assumptions and attitudes and into new, helpful thoughts about yourself and others. Visit RickHanson.net/ChangeYourMind to learn more and get 20% with coupon code BeingWell20. Sponsors: This podcast is sponsored by BetterHelp, and you can join over a million people using the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! Want to sleep better? Try the Calm app! Visit calm.com/beingwell for 40% off a premium subscription. Connect with the show: Subscribe on iTunes Follow Forrest on YouTube Follow us on Instagram Follow Forrest on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Visit Forrest's website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Hey everyone, welcome to Being Well, I'm Forest Hanson and I have been really looking
0:11.8	forward to today's episode.
0:14.8	If you listen to a podcast like ours or if you're just a terminally online person like
0:19.1	me, you're probably familiar with the phrase Daddy Issues.
0:23.5	It's a phrase that's generally targeted at women, particularly younger women, but it
0:28.1	can describe anyone who's adult relationships and maybe most importantly their romantic
0:33.0	ones are affected by the experiences they had with their father figure growing up.
0:38.5	And today we're going to be talking about what Daddy Issues are, where they come from,
0:43.0	how we can maybe understand them in a more accurate or less judgmental way and what
0:48.4	we can do about them.
0:50.7	So it's probably particularly appropriate that I've joined for today's episode by my
0:54.5	father, Dr. Rick Hanson, so Dad, how are you doing today?
0:58.4	I'm good and I suddenly am realizing for us that we should do a whole episode on sunny
1:04.0	issues.
1:05.0	Well, I have to start by asking you Dad a very important question, this is a question
1:09.4	for the culture because I know that people are wondering this.
1:12.6	Do you know what a Daddy is?
1:14.6	A Daddy.
1:15.6	Well, like not in the parental framework, I have an internal and I think internally appropriate
1:24.3	alarm system about gender, language, period and being careful, but if I follow you, I've
1:32.1	heard people talk a little bit about issues with their father, I am assuming or not in
1:38.4	the frame of sugar daddies, no, but you're close, you're getting closer, you're getting
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