Dad Tired Daily 003: You’re Not Calm—You’re Disconnected

Dad Tired

Jerrad Lopes

Christianity, Religion & Spirituality

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🗓️ 8 January 2026

⏱️ 6 minutes

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Summary

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In today’s episode, we talk about wine, anesthesia, and the quiet ways men numb pain instead of feeling it.

As Jesus was led to the cross, He was offered wine to dull the pain. He refused it. Not because the pain didn’t matter — but because He chose to fully feel the weight He was carrying.

Many men don’t explode emotionally.
They disappear.

Instead of anger, they feel numb.
Instead of emotion, they feel distance.
Instead of presence, they reach for distraction.

Scrolling.
Drinking.
Porn.
Overworking.
Anything that keeps the feelings at bay.

In this episode, we explore what it looks like to stop numbing and start feeling again — not all at once, not perfectly, but honestly. Because when you begin to feel, you begin to heal. And healed men become present men.

In This Episode:

Why emotional numbness is just as serious as emotional blowups
The overlooked moment when Jesus refused wine on the way to the cross
How men practice “avoidant coping” without realizing it
The cost of numbing out on marriage, fatherhood, and presence
A simple one-minute practice to begin feeling again

Today’s One-Minute Practice:

Instead of asking, “What am I feeling?”
Ask this:

“What am I avoiding feeling today?”

Sit with it.
Name it.
Don’t numb it.

You don’t need to fix everything.
You just need to stay present.

Strong families begin with healed men.

Transcript

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0:00.0	Today we're talking about wine, anesthesia, and how not to numb your pain. Welcome back to
0:05.5	Dad Tired Daily. Today's episode of the Dad Tired podcast is brought to you by Toy Box 3D printer,
0:12.6	where you have access to literally thousands of different toys that you can print on demand
0:17.7	with the push of a button. To learn more about this 3D printer. Make sure to click
0:22.0	the link below. Earlier this week, we talked about how there is no teleportation when it
0:28.0	comes to stress. You don't actually go from zero to 100 or from calm to blow up. That there's
0:33.4	lots of different paths that you take and your nervous system takes to get there. And many of you
0:37.5	related to that podcast because you have done that. You've blown up out of nowhere and you didn't
0:42.0	really know where that came from. Others of you though actually couldn't relate to the podcast at all
0:46.9	because you are on the opposite end of the spectrum. You very rarely, if at all, blow up. In fact,
0:53.2	you are numb when it comes to your emotions, so much so that some of you would
0:58.4	even say, I'm so numb to my emotions that it actually scares me, which is probably
1:03.3	emotion in itself.
1:05.4	You might be feeling apathetic or lazy or just when it comes to your family or maybe your
1:10.1	wife has said this to you.
1:11.2	Like, can't I get something out of you? Why are you so numb? Why are you so emotionless?
1:16.9	Why are you such a statue or whatever version of that that they might say to you? And you feel that.
1:22.3	You're like, I don't know why. I don't know why I can't shake myself out of it, but I don't actually
1:26.4	feel anything. I feel
1:28.1	incredibly numb. There's this passage in the scriptures that Caleb taught. Actually, the week that I was
1:33.6	about to go to intensive counseling last year, I was feeling some really big, scared emotions.
1:39.5	And I remember Caleb gave this passage, my pastor, taught on this passage about Jesus being crucified,
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