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First two years of life, so much of the core dispositions that are durable are established,

countless interpersonal

relational interactions between the child and the parent.

When the child is frightened,

its attachment seeking system switches on, and it is through all of the

priming that has been shaped by natural selection.

The impulse is to connect with a caregiver

to feel safe, seems soothed, and so forth.

And if the needs for attention and safety and connection

are met, then the child feels safe and the child's attachment seeking system switches off and then the

exploration system switches on which now the child feels reassured, its emotions have been regulated,

and now the child is ready to go back into its environment and explore the world. Once again, when the child is frightened,

overwhelmed, sad in any or even extremely happy or cited or shocked or disgusted.

The attachment seeking system switches on and the child turns towards a caregiver for security and then when needs are met,

then the attachment system switches off and the child's exploration system switches on and the child returns to the world with confidence and resilience.

And this pattern there throughout the entirety of our life.

From cradle to grave, as Bowlby the great psychologist,

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