Hi there. Thanks for stopping by. This is Josh. Welcome. I feel like supporting my work,

which is entirely supported only by donation. I never charge for anything I do, not the counseling

or the teaching. The Venmo is Dharma punks with an ex-NYC, and the PayPal Patreon is on the website.

So that's about it.

I'm going to start out with attachment from a positive perspective.

From birth, our most basic drive, after all, as human beings, is to attach.

Unlike all other mammals, whose newborns are almost all other mammals,

there are some primates like us, but most mammals, newborns can stand,

move, feed themselves within hours.

Human babies are born in a completely dependent state and require years and years and years of

caregiving to be able to survive. I mean, we're talking well over a decade, which is unprecedented

amongst the rest of the animal kingdom. At births, our brains are

intentionally underdeveloped. And human brains are underdeveloped at birth so that we can be wired

to the specific environments that we grow up in.

And of course, there's a wide variety of human family systems.

So it was pertinent, and human beings live in vastly different geographical locations.

So it was pertinent that human brains not be completely wired before birth,

that the bulk of the way the brain is formed and our behaviors and emotional attitudes be wired by actual

experience. So we cement the emotional predispositions by free years by bonding with others who will provide us with warmth,

feeding, protection, and help us move. It's a strategy that keeps us alive in that

we're being tethered to very specific caregivers who are emotionally invested in us.

As crying infants, we can't soothe ourselves.

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