Today's conversation is about habits.

Now, before you tune out, this is not in the typical vein of self-help of trying to get you to be a superhuman and exploring habits so you can put yourself under a microscope and criticize yourself and have all these lofty goals that you could be if you just weren't a piece of shit.

No, this is a conversation about us learning how to build

a relationship with ourselves that serves us. So my approach to habits is pretty nuanced. I'm not

trying to tell you what to do or what I think is best for you, but I am trying to always share what has worked for me,

what is continuing to work for me, what I'm interested in exploring, and that includes this

conversation about habits. According to a study cited in the book I read for this interview,

which is The Power of Habit by Charles Doohigg. About 40% of everything we do is habitual.

Habits are a really useful thing as humans. It takes a lot of energy to exist. It takes a lot of

energy to consciously exist and to make choices about what we're going to do that day, what our

lives are going to be about. And so habits are actually a great tool to automate and make the things that we do regularly

easier and leave room and leave cognitive ability for us to make choices about things that are novel and new

and need our attention.

Now, as a next method, I can tell you that habits also

have not served me well. As it says in the book, they kind of happen without our permission.

And you can end up with habits that aren't bringing you towards a life that you want to live.

When I ask every single episode, who are you?

I want you to ask yourself that, that question.

That's why I ask it is because this whole project,

the how-to human project as a whole,

is just an offering of me exploring my journey in public

and hopefully bubbling up some questions or inspiration that you will have along your own

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