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28 female tell my husband 30 male that I am not a fan of his greasy ponytail

without sounding like a... Okay, when we were dating and for most of our marriage

four years he has had short hair. It wasn't until COVID that he started growing

it out. Now I actually like his long hair. I love it when he wears it down and

it's clean. The problem is he never wears it down and despite me trying to

show him different things like conditioners and product and how to brush it

he's never had long hair so he's not used to the effort it takes to maintain.

He doesn't seem interested in learning either. He washes it with soap and

sometimes goes days without washing it at all. So he transforms from Jason

Mamoa into Ed from 90 Day Fiancey really quickly. It's always tied back into a

greasy stringy ponytail and he wears it in a high pony which I hate because it

makes him look like a cheerleader. He also uses my bright pink scrunchies and

bows when we are around the house because it's convenient and also because he

thinks it's funny but I don't find it attractive at all. I also don't want to

use my brush and my hair ties anymore after he does just because his hair is so

nasty. Imagine if JoJo Siwa didn't wash her hair for five days. That's what I

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