What's up you guys? Welcome back to the show. I am so excited for today's episode. We've wanted to get a sexologist, a sex expert on the show for a while now because I know there's a couple things that keep coming up in our community. And I want some professional help answering your guys' questions. So I have the one and only Shan Boudram

on the show today. Shan is a sexologist, author, and content creator. She is also the host of

the podcast Lovers by Shan. Shan, welcome to the show. Thanks for being here. Oh, my gosh. Thank you.

Happy to be here. And I hope you can read my excitement. I've been a benefit of your work.

So I'm really happy that.

I got the invite.

Thank you so much.

So basically there's two areas that I want to dive into.

Two areas that have come up so much in my community.

And sometimes I don't know how to respond to them.

So these two areas broadly are

porn and then also the orgasm gap for women. And I think a common thread between them is communication.

And I feel like a lot of women struggle with communicating with their partners, whether it's a

short-term relationship's a short-term

relationship, a long-term relationship. Talking about sex is really hard. So as I ask you these

questions, I think what I'm most excited to hear from you about is tips on how to communicate

with your partner when you are having these sometimes really sensitive conversations.

So let's start with porn.

Okay. I'm so curious, like your perspective as a sexologist, how do you think about porn broadly today? It's interesting. I'm an asex certified sex educator and with the asex training I went to sexual health alliance and they

have a very porn positive perspective wherein just the same way that we have an abundance of food

because food is a natural human drive and we don't shame people for enjoying food for enjoying a wide

variety of food.

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