Coping With Lack of Desire in a Mixed-Orientation Marriage

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Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife

Self-improvement, Education, Mental Health, Sexuality, Health & Fitness

4.4 • 978 Ratings

🗓️ 28 October 2021

⏱️ 19 minutes

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Summary

Feeling rejected by your spouse in any realm can be disheartening, but when the rejection is sexual, it can be an exceptionally demoralizing experiencing. Sexual rejection is particularly potent because during arousal states the brain is highly plastic. So any emotion, good or bad, holds extra sway when it is experienced during an aroused state. In this episode of Sex Therapy 101, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Cami Hurst to answer a listener's question about how to move forward and cultivate her sexuality after years of feeling undesired and fundamentally rejected by her spouse during their 21-year mixed-orientation marriage. This powerful episode is helpful to those who: * Have felt undesired in their marriages * Have been in a mixed-orientation marriage * Feel insufficient * Want to develop a stronger self-reference Don't forget to subscribe to the Room for Two podcast today to lock in the introductory pricing before November 1st. Annual subscribers get access to a live Q & A Dr. Finlayson-Fife is holding on November 5th! To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website, check out our Course Page, and take a look at our upcoming Events. You can also follow Dr. Finlayson-Fife on Instagram or join her FREE Facebook Group for greater access to her insights. The advice offered through Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s Podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Dr. Finlayson-Fife is a trained psychotherapist, she is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these sessions, but rather using her training to inform these sessions. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

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0:00.0	Welcome to the Dr Finlason-Fife podcast archive. We wanted to take a minute to remind you that the
0:08.8	introductory price to subscribe to the Room for Two Podcast ends November 1st.
0:14.4	So we hope that you'll take the chance to subscribe,
0:17.4	while the price is still $79 for the annual subscription
0:21.1	and $79 for a monthly subscription.
0:24.0	Here's what one listener said about the Room for Two Podcast.
0:28.0	I eagerly await each Room for Two episode
0:31.0	because it's far easier to understand the concepts when they play out in real
0:34.8	live counseling sessions. Dr Finlayson Fife is masterful at modeling directness with compassion,
0:41.6	so refreshing. I can see myself in so many of these stories.
0:46.3	I'm challenged to grow. Thanks so much for making these available.
0:50.1	Now for this week's podcast episode. Enjoy.
0:56.0	Jennifer Finlison Fife. If you don't know her name you should. I know a lot of us binge watch
1:06.4	whatever she produces. So I'm just so grateful to have this time with you Jennifer, do you want to share a little bit about yourself for our listeners?
1:17.0	Sure, Jennifer, I practice out of Chicago, that's where my office is,. I do a lot of online coaching and teaching in terms of online courses and then I do a lot of workshops, particularly in the Intermountain West. My focus is primarily working with
1:35.4	LDS couples and individuals and creating more intimate passionate partnerships
1:40.9	and do a lot with sexual self-development and relational self-development in the work I do.
1:48.0	So yeah.
1:49.0	Excellent. I'm so grateful to rub shoulders with you today.
1:53.0	So I'm going to go ahead and read our submission sent in by a listener
1:57.0	and then we'll discuss it and here's what we've got today.
2:01.0	So, she writes, I didn't know I was in a mixed orientation marriage. The
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