Contracting - The Core Conditions and the Skill of Silence
Counselling Tutor podcast
Kenneth Kelly
4.8 • 657 Ratings
🗓️ 1 February 2016
⏱️ 54 minutes
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Summary
Counselling Tutor Podcast about contracting in counselling, the skill of silence and theory talk about the core conditions of Carl Rogers.
In this the first podcast episode of the Counselling Tutor Podcast, Ken and Rory speak about contracting as a counsellor. The theory section looks at the Core Conditions of Carl Rogers and in the skills section of the podcast Ken introduces the skill of silence.
The counselling contract
As counsellors we are expected to contract with our clients before therapy begins. The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) recognises contracting in the counselling relationship as part of client autonomy offering respect for the client’s right to be self-governing.
Rory and Ken explore what contracting is and why we need it at the beginning of the therapeutic journey. They look at how legislation effects what might be covered in a therapeutic contract and how the four corner rule applies to us as counsellors.
The Core Conditions of Carl Rogers
Rory explores the core conditions including looking at the real origin of the term "core conditions".
The facilitative conditions are outlined and compared against the "hidden conditions" or "counsellors conditions". Each of the core conditions is examined individually giving an overview of what part empathy, unconditional positive regard (ups) and congruence play in the counselling relationship. Rory shrines a light on the "hidden conditions". He gives an explanation of how psychological contact, the client being incongruent and the client perceiving, at least at some level, the presence of empathy and upr from the counsellor, influences the counselling relationship.
Use of Silence in Counselling
Silence is a counselling skill that may be challenging for some students of counselling. Ken Kelly delves deep into the meaning of silence and how the skill can be used effectively in the counsellor client relationship. Ken explores how the use and benefits of silence may differ for the counsellor and client. Silence is directly linked to the counsellor having unconditional positive regard for the client. It allows the client to set the pace of the session whilst trusting that they will find their own way without the counsellor needed to lead or guide.
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the Counseling Tutor Podcast. The must listen to podcast for students of counseling and |
| 0:09.0 | psychotherapy. Here are your hosts, Rory Lee's Oaks and Ken Kelly. Hi, it's Rory from the |
| 0:18.2 | Counseling Tutor podcast. It's great to be here and it's great to be able to bring you theory and skills in a form of a podcast. And with me is my partner in therapy, Kenneth Kelly. Hi, Ken. |
| 0:29.7 | Great to be here and excited at this, the maiden voyage of the counselling tutor podcast. And hopefully this is a place where you will find |
| 0:38.5 | like-minded people sharing a really special journey, that journey going from student into |
| 0:43.9 | potentially, depending on what your plans are, a practicing therapist. And we're here to support |
| 0:50.1 | you along the way. I know Rory has been counselling for many years, but you've also been a |
| 0:55.8 | tutor for a number of years, Rory, and you're bringing all that to the table? Absolutely. I've |
| 1:01.0 | been a tutor for over 15 years. I literally went from graduation to the classroom. I still practice, |
| 1:09.5 | and I've taught at practice level for over a decade. |
| 1:13.6 | So I'm hoping to bring that kind of knowledge and passion |
| 1:17.7 | and the kind of excitement that I hope to generate in my classroom environment |
| 1:22.5 | across the internet onto the podcast. |
| 1:25.3 | So everybody can get a sense of, you know, the fun to some extent |
| 1:30.2 | of learning, counseling, that personal development, that making sure that you are the best |
| 1:35.8 | therapist you can be. And I hope we can do that. Oh yeah. And I'm rubbing my hands together with |
| 1:41.6 | eagerness and I can share with you all that I shared a number of years |
| 1:46.5 | working with Rory as a tutor. So we're teaming up again to bring you the counseling tutor podcast |
| 1:52.2 | and just to give you a kind of a bite of what you might expect here today. And from future |
| 1:56.5 | podcasts as well, we aim to kind of reflect what you might get in the college or in the class or in the university environment where we're going to be kind of bringing a little bit of theory. We're going to be talking about skills and we're going to be looking at personal and professional development. |
| 2:12.6 | There's no better place to start, Ken, when we talk of any counselling journey and certainly something |
| 2:18.5 | that we would do on day one in my classroom environment. And that, of course, is make a |
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