Confronting Your Conflict Avoidance

ShrinkChicks

Jennifer Chaiken, LMFT and Emmalee Bierly, LMFT

Mental Health, Education, Health & Fitness, Society & Culture, Self-improvement, Relationships

5 • 717 Ratings

🗓️ 9 June 2025

⏱️ 45 minutes

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This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are confronting conflict avoidance! They discuss how they each handle conflict personally, the two ends of the spectrum: from avoidance to reactionary, the benefits and downfalls of conflict avoidance, the temporary discomfort for long-term relief, why practice makes progress, getting comfortable with your tears, and so much more! Em and Jen also share a script to use if you find yourself avoiding a conflict, and answer the question: are we all stuck in our conflict styles? Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: Fast forward to around 5:10 to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Matched With One of Our Therapists⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ at The Therapy Group! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ShrinkChicks on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Know Yourself Grow Yourself Journal⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!! Check out ShrinkChicks on YouTube by subscribing here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://youtube.com/channel/UCrxuhDqoL4ML3UE8b2J2BBg⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners: Leesa: Go to ⁠Leesa.com⁠ for 25% off a mattress PLUS get an extra $50 off with promo code shrinkchicks, exclusive for our listeners Green Chef: Head to ⁠Greenchef.com/50SHRINKCHICKS⁠ and use code 50SHRINKCHICKS to get 50% off your first month, then 20% off for two months with free shipping Wildgrain: Get $30 off your first box - PLUS free croissants in every box - when you go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Wildgrain.com/SHRINKCHICKS⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to start your subscription or use code SHRINKCHICKS at checkout Pretty Litter: Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠prettylitter.com/SHRINKCHICKS⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to save 20% on your first order and get a free cat toy Quince: Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠quince.com/shrinkchicks⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns on your next order Spot & Tango: Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠spotandtango.com/shrinkchicks⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and use code SHRINKCHICKS to get 50% off your first order

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0:00.0	This podcast is brought to you by Podcast Nation.
0:04.7	You're like almost abandoning yourself when you're not honoring.
0:09.5	This is how I feel.
0:10.8	You're saying, you're basically saying by never bringing something up that bothers you
0:14.9	or shoving it down or avoiding conflict that your feelings do not matter.
0:19.7	And if you're someone who typically does that, then my sense is like maybe you grew up in an environment where people often told you that your feelings didn't matter.
0:36.2	Welcome back to another episode of shrink chicks.
0:39.0	Take a seat on our virtual therapy couch and get ready to learn all about, well, you.
0:44.2	I'm Emily Beerley.
0:45.3	And I'm Jennifer Chakin.
0:46.6	And we're both licensed, marriage and family therapist and relationship experts.
0:50.4	We're the owners and founders of the therapy group, a nationwide psychotherapy practice
0:55.2	with down-to-earth therapists just like us. Your session is starting, so get ready to know
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