Confidence Classic: Where True Confidence Really Comes From with Nicole Kalil

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan

Heather Monahan

Self-improvement, Education, Business, Entrepreneurship

4.8 • 1.1K Ratings

🗓️ 27 January 2026

⏱️ 38 minutes

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Summary

Confidence isn’t something you earn, it’s something you build. In this episode, I sit down with Nicole Kalil, aka the “Confidence Sherpa,” to talk about the biggest lie that has been told that confidence comes from promotions, paychecks, perfect bodies, or other people’s approval. Nicole shares why confidence is rooted in trust, how living inauthentically drains your self-belief, and why mistakes, missteps, and discomfort are not confidence killers. Get ready to stop chasing validation, release perfectionism, and learn how to create confidence that no one can take away. In This Episode You Will Learn Why CONFIDENCE isn’t external but built through SELF-TRUST. The “CONFIDENCE CON” and how it keeps you stuck chasing validation. How keeping COMMITMENTS to yourself builds confidence. Why MISTAKES and FAILURES actually strengthen self-belief. The 5 biggest CONFIDENCE DERAILERS holding women back. How PERFECTIONISM erodes your power. Why COMPARISON is confidence poison. How OVERTHINKING leads to inaction and regret. What it really means to USE YOUR VOICE authentically. Check Out Our Sponsors: Shopify - Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/monahan Quince - Step into the holiday season with layers made to feel good and last from Quince. Go to quince.com/confidence Timeline - Get 10% off your first Mitopure order at timeline.com/CONFIDENCE. Northwest Registered Agent - protect your privacy, build your brand and get your complete business identity in just 10 clicks and 10 minutes! Visit https://www.northwestregisteredagent.com/confidencefree Resources + Links Get your copy of Nicole’s book, Validation Is for Parking: How Women Can Beat the Confidence Con HERE Nicole Kalil’s website: nicolekalil.com Listen to Nicole’s podcast: This Is Women’s Work Call my digital clone at 201-897-2553! Visit heathermonahan.com Sign up for my mailing list: heathermonahan.com/mailing-list/ Overcome Your Villains is Available NOW! Order here: https://overcomeyourvillains.com If you haven't yet, get my first book Confidence Creator Follow Heather on Instagram & LinkedIn Nicole on Instagram & LinkedIn

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0:15.1	When I get this promotion, I'll feel confident.
0:17.8	When I make this level of income, then I'll feel confident.
0:20.7	When my children are perfectly behaved, then I'll feel confident. When I make this level of income, then I'll feel confident. When my children are
0:21.8	perfectly behaved, then I'll feel confident. When the scale says a certain number, then I'll feel
0:26.3	confident. And the reality is that's just not how confidence works. And so the con is that it's
0:32.5	something outside of us. This idea that so much of us have bought into is that confidence is related to how we
0:39.9	look and how we feel. The root of the word confidence is trust. So confidence is when we trust
0:47.0	ourselves. Come on this journey with me. Each week when you join me, we are going to chase down
0:52.3	our goals. We'll overcome adversity and set you up for a better
0:55.8	tomorrow.
0:57.6	I'm ready for my close-up.
0:59.6	Tell me, have you been enjoying these new bonus confidence classics episodes we've been
1:04.8	dropping on you every week? We've literally hundreds of episodes for you to listen to. So these
1:09.2	bonuses are a great way to help you find the
1:11.6	ones you may have already missed. I hope you love this one as much as I do. Hi, and welcome back.
1:17.7	I'm so excited for you to meet my guest today. Nicole Khalil is an in-demand speaker and a dynamic
1:23.8	host of This Is Women's Work Podcast.
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