Confessions of a Divorce Attorney ft. Nicole Sodoma
Dear Shandy
Sharleen Joynt & Andy Levine
4.9 • 4K Ratings
🗓️ 7 April 2022
⏱️ 74 minutes
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Summary
Today's lovely guest, Nicole Sodoma, is a seasoned divorce attorney of over two decades and the managing principal at Sodoma Law, based in Charlotte NC. Her debut book, "Please Don't Say You're Sorry: An Empowering Perspective on Marriage, Separation, and Divorce from a Marriage-Loving Divorce Attorney" will be released on May 24. She has also been through a divorce of her own, so needless to say, she's beyond qualified for today's "Confessions" episode! Nicole answers all of YOUR burning questions, and our conversation covers everything from her personal observations to (oftentimes surprising) divorce stats to invaluable life advice.
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Articles For HuffPost - https://www.huffpost.com/author/nicole-h-sodoma
Time Stamps
3:57 - Did She Always Want To Be A Divorce Attorney?
5:41 - If She Could Go Back In Time And Do Something Else, What Would It Be?
8:54 - Is Divorce One Of The Most Expensive Things In The World?
13:40 - What's The Average Time A Divorce Takes From Beginning To End?
16:32 - If You Get Married In One State But Reside In Another, Which State's Divorce Laws Apply?
17:22 - What Percentage Of The Divorces She's Dealt With Had Prenups? (Are Prenups In And Of Themselves An Indicator For Separation?)
23:50 - What Are The Top 3 Reasons She Sees For Divorce?
26:16 - What Percentage Of Divorces Are Amicable Versus Contentious?
29:53 - What's The Most Common Thing Couples Fight Over, And What's The Most Shocking Thing She's Seen A Couple Fight Over?
32:46 - Do Couples Ever *Not* Fight Over Custody?
36:35 - What Percentage Of Couples Who Make It To Her Office End Up Not Going Through With It?
38:10 - What's The Most Romantic Thing She's Ever Seen During A Divorce?
39:14 - How Is Debt Calculated?
42:32 - What Are Her General Thoughts On Prenups?
52:50 - How Many Years Into Marriage Are The Most Common For Divorce?
54:39 - What Are The Most Common Ages She Sees?
56:04 - What Are Some Things She Wishes Couples Would Consider Before Marriage?
59:08 - Did She Represent Herself In Her Own Divorce?
59:59 - What Are Some Red Flags She Wishes People Would Look Out For?
1:01:34 - Let's Say You Know It's Over—What Are The Best First Steps?
1:04:17 - What Advice Would You Give To Someone Going Through A Divorce Right Now?
1:06:02 - Is Marriage Worth The Risk?
1:07:42 - Shandy Debrief
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | I've decided that we really don't get along that well, so we should get a divorce and it should be fun. |
| 0:04.4 | We can just... |
| 0:06.0 | Can you send me those rose-colored glasses when you're done wearing them? |
| 0:16.4 | Welcome back to Dear Shandee, listeners. Hello, Andy. Hello. How are you today? Doing okay. |
| 0:22.0 | It's hot topic day. Hot. Hot. |
| 0:25.2 | And I've got to say, when I announced that we had this particular hot topic guest on, |
| 0:30.8 | we were pretty overwhelmed with the response, actually. |
| 0:33.2 | Yeah, I was surprised. People are very intrigued. |
| 0:36.0 | Yeah, very intrigued. They had a lot of questions for you. |
| 0:39.2 | But before we introduce our lovely guest, I'm going to first rattle off some of her accomplishments. |
| 0:44.8 | So Nicole Sadoma is a seasoned divorce attorney of over two decades, and she has personally gone through a divorce, |
| 0:52.0 | which I think gives her a unique perspective here. She's the managing principal attorney at Sadoma Law based in and around Charlotte, North Carolina. |
| 0:59.6 | And her debut book, Please Don't Say You're Sorry, An Empowering Perspective on Marriage, Separation, and Divorce from a Marriage Loving Divorce Attorney, |
| 1:08.4 | will be released on May 24th, and it provides insightful, empowering, and at times hilarious perspectives on marriage and divorce |
| 1:16.4 | as she recounts her own unique blend of personal and professional experiences. And she can be found on Instagram at at Nicole Sadoma as ODOMA. |
| 1:25.6 | Nicole, thank you so much for joining us today. Welcome. |
| 1:29.2 | Thanks you guys. Are you going to say hot before my name? I mean, like all those things that are hot? I was like, yes, I love it. |
| 1:37.2 | It's I don't know why that began, but from the inception of this podcast, we had these hot topic episodes. |
| 1:43.2 | Andy off the cuff was like, we're always like, it cannot be explained. I'm not really sure why we do that. |
| 1:50.8 | This is hot. It is very hot. And you are a hot guest in more ways than one. And we're so excited that we can pick your brain today. Thank you for joining us. |
| 1:59.6 | Awesome. Thanks you guys. You know, I don't know as you're doing your intro, I'm thinking, gosh, it's, I guess my perspective is not unique because I got divorce, |
| 2:09.2 | because so many people get divorced. But you know, it was when I got divorced that I was like, oh my gosh, 20 something years of being a divorce lawyer, |
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