Hello friends, it's Rosie, welcome to Radio Headspace and to Wednesday.

Yesterday I was talking to my mom about how busy I am and the pressure that comes with

that and I was feeling a bit guilty because at times this makes me agitated and even sharp with people.

As a suggestion my mom asked me how my meditation practice was going and that made me think about

how meditation has helped me be more compassionate to myself and others over the years.

So today I thought it would be good to share some ways to have compassion especially when

conflicts arise and anger starts to rear its ugly head. I am such a big fan of practicing

compassion but also practicing self-compassion. Now compassion means that I want the suffering

of another to end and the practice of self-compassion means I have the desire for my own

suffering to end and I think when we're in a situation especially when we're in conflict

if we're feeling like we are suffering and our feelings are not being seen heard and understood

we might feel that the only way to gain the other person's attention is to be loud or to do

something abrupt. Those are the moments where you have to really practice self-compassion because

you are in a state of suffering in that moment. So how can you give yourself the space, the breathing

space, the emotional space, even the physical space from the situation so that you can self-regulate

and put yourself back into a calm state. So let me tell you a little story. I was driving to work

and all of a sudden this woman, she raced in front of me and completely cut me off and then

stuck her arm out and flipped me off. I immediately went into I need to show this person a lesson.

So instead of just taking a beat I just sped up to try and catch up to her. In that moment I felt

that space of compassion come in. I just felt the energy of okay what's going to happen I'm going

to go up to this lady and do the same thing that she did to me it's just going to perpetuate the

cycle. I really let that resonate with me so I felt disrespected I felt like she was lashing out at

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