Communication Skills: Reacting Versus Responding | E358

Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

YAP Media Network | Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Relationships, Society & Culture, Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.7 • 890 Ratings

🗓️ 17 July 2023

⏱️ 51 minutes

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Summary

We've all been there: Your partner says something that just inflames you, and you say something you regret later. Or you instinctively defend yourself and withdraw when things get tense, rather than leaning into a healthy and productive courageous conversation. We all know that being able to react vs. respond is a cornerstone of emotional intelligence, and healthy relationships. But that can be easier said than done in the middle of a heated conflict. When you’re frustrated, hurt, or stressed, you might raise your voice, say something you don’t mean, or make an impulsive decision with long-lasting consequences. All of this is bad news for you and for your relationships. But learning the art of being responsive versus reactive leads to deeper, healthier connections, and a life that’s directed by your true values. That's what we're talking about on today's show. I hope you'll tune in! With love, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby growingself.com

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0:00.0	This is Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby, and you're listening to the Love, Happiness, and Success Podcast.
0:07.1	We all know that we get better results when we respond thoughtfully rather than react impulsively,
0:17.0	especially when it comes to our relationships. But knowing how to do that, especially in the heat of the moment, can be harder than it sounds.
0:27.3	So on today's show, you'll be learning how to slow down and respond with intention so that you get better outcomes.
0:50.3	Sleeping volcanoes under this. with intention so that you get better outcomes. Today's mood music, this is Casmec, singing about sleeping volcanoes, which I thought was very apt for today's show.
0:59.9	I think we all have this dormant kind of reactivity to all kinds of different things.
1:06.9	We all have capacity to respond with style and grace, but also either explode or shut down or be
1:15.1	reactive, make impulsive decisions. Even our cognitive styles can be rather reactive. And that is this
1:22.0	volcanic kind of uncontrollable thing that happens that can, in retrospect, create issues for us,
1:31.3	create outcomes that we would rather not have, especially in relationships.
1:36.5	But reactivity can show up in all kinds of life domains, including your day-to-day happiness
1:42.9	and quality of life and in your career too.
1:46.1	So this topic of reacting versus responding, understanding the difference between the two,
1:53.3	and knowing how to just manage yourself in those moments, particularly when you know that you
1:59.0	are vulnerable to being reactive, really puts you in
2:02.5	such a position to be successful in life and relationships at your job. And so that's why I wanted
2:09.6	to talk about this today. Oh, and if you want to learn more about Casma Combs and his work or
2:14.5	even check out upcoming tour dates, looks like the man is on the move.
2:19.1	You can check out his Bandcamp page,
2:22.1	Cass Macombs.bandcamp.com.
2:24.3	That's Cass C-A-S-S and then McCombs with two C's,
2:29.3	MC-O-M-B-S dot bandcamp.com.
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