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Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

Communication In Marriage: How To Stop The Drift

Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

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Religion & Spirituality, Default, Talk Radio, Christianity

4.8 • 808 Ratings

🗓️ 8 January 2019

⏱️ 32 minutes

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Summary

When you think about communication in marriage, what comes to mind? When I was gathering data for my book, Choosing Marriage, I asked singles to tell me how much time they thought married couples spend in quality communication each week. Then, I surveyed married couples asking them how much time they spend in quality communication each week…and the different answers that came in were almost laughable (I tell you all about the stats it in this episode and why married couples aren’t actually talking!) There was such a drastic difference between what singles thought communication in marriage looked like, vs. what married people actually reported communication in marriage to be.  But there are so many things that get in the way of communication in marriage. Life. Jobs. Kids. If we’re not constantly trying to move together in marriage, we’ll find ourselves moving apart. MARRIAGE COUNSELORS TALKING REAL COMMUNICATION IN MARRIAGE In today’s episode, I’m joined by my dear friend and marriage counselor, Dr. Kim Kimberling. We cover some of these issues that can come up with communication and connection in marriage. We talk about our own respective marriages, some of the challenges and successes we face when it comes to communication in marriage. We talk about child-centric homes, why they’re dangerous to marriage, and what to do about it. How to set some boundaries with your kids so you can enrich your marriage. We talk about some steps you can take to build your marriage or restore it when you’re feeling off-track. Why most married couples aren’t spending enough time together, and how to make it happen. We talk about the importance of the first 10-minutes of contact with your spouse. We talk about who should initiate communication and why it matters. We also share some ways we stay connected to our spouses and some practices that you can apply to your marriage to stay connected….and so much more! This episode is so full of amazing conversation and insight. You’re going to love it! Whether you’re single, or married, or somewhere in between – take the time to tune into Episode 22 of the LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST. Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER or SPOTIFY Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: Be sure to connect with today’s guest, Dr. Kim Kimberling and all his encouraging marriage resources at AwesomeMarriage.com. And be sure to check out his new book, 14 Keys To Lasting Love: How To Have The Marriage You’ve Always Wanted Learn more about communication by checking out this article: You Have Walls, And They’re Keeping People Out. The Truth About Communication in Marriage. BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life.   DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0

Hey, friends, welcome back to the love and relationships podcast. I'm your host, Deborah Felita,

0:23.2

and I'm so glad you're tuning into these candid conversations about love, sex, dating, singleness,

0:29.3

and marriage. For those of you who don't know me or are tuning in for the first time, I'm a licensed

0:34.3

professional counselor and author specializing in relationship issues.

0:38.7

I also run the Relationship Advice blog True Love Dates.com, reaching millions of people with the message that healthy people make healthy relationships.

0:48.2

If you've tuned into the podcast before, you know it's a hotline style show, meaning people call in or write in with their

0:54.9

relationship questions, and I answer them on this show in short, practical, bite-sized

0:59.8

answers. If you have a question that you want me to answer on the show, send it via email

1:05.1

or voice memo to Deborah at true lovedates.com or check out my podcast page true lovedates.com slash love and relationships

1:13.3

and I'll do my best to get it answered on one of the episodes. So let's get started.

1:19.7

Today's question comes from Sue from Delaware. Hi, Deborah. My name is Sue from Delaware. My husband

1:26.7

and I are feeling off. Sometimes I feel like I don't even know him anymore. What can we do to get back on track?

1:35.3

I'm really excited to have a special guest helping me answer this question on the show today. So let me introduce you to Dr. Kim Kim, Kimberling. Dr. Kim has been a professional counselor for over 30 years.

1:47.9

He has a PhD and a doctor of ministry in Christian counseling.

1:51.7

Dr. Kim is president and co-founder of a ministry called Awesome Marriage.

1:57.5

Awesome Marriage reaches thousands of people each month with God's plan for marriage and

2:01.9

relationships. Him and his wife Nancy have been married over 40 years and together they have two

2:07.4

adult married children and five awesome grandchildren. Dr. Kim's inspiration and passion for marriage

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began at a young age as he watched his parents live out the true meaning of having

2:18.9

an awesome marriage centered around God's incredible plan. He's open and honest about the

2:25.4

struggles he's experienced in marriage, and that's one of the things I love about him, because

2:29.9

he uses these personal examples to help so many people.

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