I am Sarah Jane Case and this is Inneagram and coffee.

Hello friends, happy Tuesday. I hope the week is treating you well. So far so good over here.

I had a work trip this past week, which was really nice. I think you all know by now I love to travel,

especially traveling to work. I think that's like one of my favorite things ever. And it's

fun to be doing that in my new job a bit. The rain is keeping us alive over here. Like it has been

raining a lot, which makes my herb garden very happy that's really

nice and i have this weekend to get caught up on some home hobby things you know baking some bread

pruning the garden you know all that good. So nothing to complain about really over here.

Now, today I have a question that I want to answer about self-prez threes and the relationship

to suffering, which I thought was also a really good jumping off point for a discussion on

suffering and self-criticism, like in general. So let's go ahead and dive in.

So here is today's question. Is there a relationship between self-preservation type

threes and the type fours sometimes quote-unquote choice to suffer? I struggle with a very mean

inner self-critic that sometimes feels like

I'm more punishing or hurting myself as quote-unquote penance. Now let's dive into that a little bit.

So I think the first thing to note here is that self-preservation three, if you aren't familiar.

So anagram type threes are the achiever, right? They are focused on success,

appearing successful. They are typically kind of struggle with vanity. I want to be perceived a

certain way, want to be perceived as inspiring as having achieved a lot as successful. They want to be known for

what they've done, what they've accomplished. That being said, we have three subtypes for

every enneagram type, self-preservation, social and sexual. The sexual three is more focused on

vanity of appearance, like wanting to be beautiful, wanting to prop up a partner who they deem admirable.

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