Codependent Narcissist Tango: Unpacking the Attraction
Lisa A Romano Breakdown to Breakthroughs
Lisa A. Romano
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🗓️ 28 August 2023
⏱️ 9 minutes
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Summary
Codependency recovery is not for the faint of heart. Codependents often find themselves attracted to individuals with high narcissistic traits due to a complex interplay of psychological factors. One key reason is that codependents tend to have a deep-seated need to care for and please others. They derive a sense of self-worth and validation from being needed and relied upon by others. Narcissists, on the other hand, have an insatiable need for attention, admiration, and validation. This creates a dynamic where the codependent's desire to nurture and the narcissist's desire to be the center of attention align initially. The codependent may believe they can fulfill the narcissist's needs, while the narcissist provides the codependent with a sense of purpose and importance.
Additionally, codependents often struggle with low self-esteem and an excessive need for validation from others. They may have grown up in dysfunctional or neglectful environments with unmet needs. This can lead them to seek validation and approval from external sources, such as a narcissistic partner. The grandiose and charismatic nature of narcissists can initially be captivating to codependents, as they see the narcissist as someone who can fill the void within and provide the validation they crave. However, this dynamic can become toxic over time as the codependent becomes increasingly enmeshed in meeting the narcissist's insatiable demands, losing sight of their own needs and well-being.
It is important to note that not all codependents marry individuals with high narcissistic traits, and not all narcissists seek out codependents. Relationships are complex, and various factors contribute to their formation. However, understanding the dynamics that can attract codependents to narcissistic individuals can be crucial to breaking free from unhealthy patterns and fostering healthier, more balanced relationships.
In this episode, Lisa A. Romano the Codependency and Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Expert, takes you deep into the codependent narcissist tango.
If you are ready to breakthrough the veil of consciousness, and live an autonomous and self-actualized life, free of codependency, check out Lisa's 3 in 1 Coaching Program offer.
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the Breakdown to Breakthrough podcast. |
| 0:06.0 | My name is Lisa A. Romano. |
| 0:08.0 | I am a life coach, best-selling author, YouTube vlogger, meditation teacher, an expert in the field of codependency and narcissistic abuse. |
| 0:16.0 | I am a believer in the power of an organized mind. |
| 0:20.0 | My aim is to help people learn what it means to live above the veil of consciousness rather |
| 0:25.8 | than living a reactive life. |
| 0:28.3 | May your heart feel blessed, your mind feel expanded, and your spirit find hope as you |
| 0:33.5 | spend time with me here at the Breakdown to Breakthrough podcast. |
| 0:38.8 | Namaste everybody. |
| 0:39.9 | So today we're going to be talking about the types of partners, |
| 0:43.5 | co-dependent people attract into their lives. |
| 0:46.4 | So if you're struggling with codependency, |
| 0:48.1 | you're struggling with a sense of self. |
| 0:49.7 | You're someone who feels invisible. |
| 0:52.0 | You're someone who doesn't feel comfortable in your own skin. |
| 0:55.1 | You're somebody who tends to enable other people's poor behavior. You feel stuck in toxic |
| 1:01.1 | relationships. You don't know how to set healthy boundaries. You don't even know what a healthy |
| 1:07.8 | boundary is. Chances are you have married an alcoholic. Chances are you have |
| 1:12.8 | married a narcissist or you've attracted narcissists in your life, including friends. |
| 1:17.4 | Chances are you are married to and or friends with and or have been attracted to people who |
| 1:23.7 | suffer from addictions who have yet to figure out that they have addictions that need to be |
| 1:27.9 | resolved. You tend to attract people who have high conflict personalities, people that |
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