Welcome to the Breakdown to Breakthrough podcast.

My name is Lisa A. Romano.

I am a life coach, best-selling author, YouTube vlogger, meditation teacher, an expert in the field of codependency and narcissistic abuse.

I am a believer in the power of an organized mind.

My aim is to help people learn what it means to live above the veil of consciousness

rather than living a reactive life.

May your heart feel blessed, your mind feel expanded, and your spirit find hope

as you spend time with me here at the Breakdown to Breakthrough podcast.

They're going to be talking about why it might be really difficult for you to have really

healthy, authentic relationships. You know, when you struggle with codependency, most oftentimes

you don't know it. You know, people don't normally think about codependency as a program.

Codependency is a subconscious program.

That your mind is literally built before the age of seven to behave a certain way and to

react to certain situations and certain triggers a certain way.

We don't usually consider how being codependent is tied to our childhoods. What did

you observe in childhood? What kind of mom did you have? Did you have a mom who was a people

pleaser? Did you have a dad who was highly narcissistic or vice versa? Did you grow up with parents

who were not emotionally regulated? Did you grow up feeling invisible?

Did you grow up feeling not good enough? Did you grow up in this paradigm that made you feel

like you were subordinate, right, to other people, that you didn't have a right to a self?

Now, when you grow up in this type of a situation, you're

not anchored to the self. You don't become self-actualized. You don't become self-individualized.

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