When we're collaborative, we're saying, I'm willing to bring my better self to this.

I'm not going to pretend that there aren't issues, but I'm going to clean up what's mine to clean up.

And that actually invites other people to do the same.

It's not a guarantee that they will.

But when we are in our reactive selves, we keep justifying their reactive selves.

When we bring a kinder, more compassionate self, we invite the same.

Welcome to conversations with Dr. Jennifer, a collection of interviews on the topics of relationships, sexuality, spirituality, and more.

All featuring Dr. Finlayson Fife.

Welcome everybody to the Christmas in Conflict Conversation.

I just wanted to quickly just remind people who are getting on here for the first time, this is a part of our Facebook group, Ask an LDS, Marriage and Sexuality

Therapist, and that's a setting in which people ask questions of each other. And monthly or sometimes twice a month,

we gather some of those questions up and I do a Q&A to respond to some of the specific

topics that people are struggling with. So I just want to tell you a couple of things before I

jump into the content. We are doing, so I'm teaching an

enhancing sexual intimacy webinar that starts in mid-January and goes for eight weeks on Saturday

evening. And this is really a course on how to improve your marital intimate relationship.

And it has, of course, a lot to do with your emotional connection.

But then how that gets expressed through your sexual connection and how you can create

something that is mutually more desirable.

So the nice thing about the online course

is that it is, you can ask questions of me.

You can also have time to digest the content over the week,

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