"Choosing to be Childfree"
Seeing Other People
Ilana Dunn
4.5 • 608 Ratings
🗓️ 6 October 2022
⏱️ 54 minutes
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Summary
TW: Suicidal thoughts
UNFILTERED: I’m joined by a man who opens up about the longterm relationship he was in where his partner knew she wanted a child and he knew that he did not. We hear how they tried to work through this, how difficult it was to try and change their mind for the other, and how it ultimately lead to them breaking up. He shares what factors went into his decision to get a vasectomy, how his childfree lifestyle has impacted his friendships, and what navigating the dating world is like when you don’t want children.
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| 0:00.0 | This podcast is brought to you by Podcast Nation. |
| 0:04.8 | Hey guys, it's Alana and you're listening to seeing other people unfiltered. |
| 0:14.0 | Each Thursday on Unfiltered, I'll be bringing on a different anonymous guests to open up about their real life dating experiences. |
| 0:20.6 | We'll discuss what |
| 0:21.3 | they went through or are going through, how they navigated it, what they've learned, and what |
| 0:25.1 | advice they have to anyone else going through something similar. Unfiltered is your reminder |
| 0:29.4 | that no matter what you're going through, you're not alone. If you have a topic that you'd |
| 0:33.2 | like to discuss on Unfiltered, please email your story to Seeing Other People podcast at gmail.com |
| 0:38.0 | to be considered for an episode. Real people, real stories, real life. This is seeing other people |
| 0:43.6 | unfiltered. I'm a 28-year-old male. I live in Washington, D.C., and I'm here to talk about my past |
| 0:50.3 | relationship, which collapsed due to the issue of disagreement on having kids. |
| 0:56.8 | Thank you so much for being here and for being willing to share your story. I know we often talk |
| 1:04.1 | about our deal breakers and our non-negotiables and things that we want, but I think we all have |
| 1:10.5 | run into situations where, you know, |
| 1:12.7 | we think we know what we want and then we meet someone and we're like, oh, but I like this person. |
| 1:16.5 | So I'm willing to compromise on it. And I think there are some deal breakers where that's okay. |
| 1:24.0 | And there are others where that is not okay. So I'd love to hear, you know, how you and this person from your past met and what happened. |
| 1:35.8 | And when you knew you didn't want kids, you know, take me back from to the beginning. |
| 1:41.4 | So I've always known that I didn't want kids, actually, even when I was |
| 1:45.5 | a kid myself. I didn't really like hanging out with other kids. I preferred hanging out with |
| 1:51.5 | adults, and I knew that when I would grow up, I would not have any kids of my own. And this is still |
| 1:57.4 | what I want to do today. So at least it's consistent and I know what I want. |
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