It's so easy to be thankful when things are going well. I mean there's nothing to

complain about but we all face difficult moments and then what do you do?

Choosing to be grateful can be overwhelming.

I'm John Fuller joined by Dr. Danny Werta.

He's the vice president of parenting and youth

at Focus on the Family.

And Danny, I mean, you're a counselor.

So by nature, you're seeing people who are struggling.

It's not all going great.

It's a valley.

So how do you get somebody in the valley to start to get a perspective that says I might even be able to be thankful for this?

It's super hard. I mean it's like really being not hungry at all and trying to eat food I mean you

really there's no desire for some people to be thankful you look at them in the

middle of panic attacks happening in their home, or anxiety, depression, obsessive-compulsive issues that are happening in the home

that are very real, bipolar disorder, drug abuse, violence, assaults, suicide attempts.

These are all the things that have come through my office

where parents are coming in and trying to look for

the joy in parenting, the joy in life.

Why did God bring this to us? Why are we going through it? What did we do wrong? Is a question, what did we, did we sin? Is this a payback for what I did my teen years I know I did bad stuff so that's

what parents are processing that and it's hard for them to go towards a

thankfulness I remember this dad and son well actually actually it was a family counseling situation and the

mom had come first. It was a dad and a son that would consistently be

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