Hey, the Bird Show, Kristen has said this because as I've said before, I think once you get out of a relationship,

very, you know, especially if it's a serious relationship, and you feel that hurt, you start to look back and go like,

what is it I want what does I really want

in a relationship and I've said to you guys before that I wonder if I'm chasing

something that just doesn't exist a long-term relationship that is healthy as

Kristen says mea I'm not looking for me I'm just looking for something not as

dramatic right safe you content has always been like a dirty word for you but

content does not mean complacent it just means that you're in a safe content I don't know what other word to use there.

Huh? Peaceful? Yes. Yes.

Yes. Yes. Content is a really

changing that now, right?

However, I still want there to be,

I've got this idea that I want the next relationship that I'm in if it lasts five years

ten years 15 years I want that spark that intoxication you have in the beginning to

last forever and I don't know that it's possible.

Kristen calls it exhausting.

Well, for me, it's I personally in my relationship that that would not be sustainable for me and that

would be setting I would be setting my expectations I would be setting myself up to

fail there's no way I would be able to live up to that expectation of having that high intensity less full

spark that Bart and I had when we first started dating. We have evolved over

this. We've been together 17 years we have evolved over this. We've been together 17 years. We have evolved and while we don't have that hot and heavy

spark we did when we first started dating, we have something different. Our relationship has just evolved and we have something deep, we have something meaningful because of everything we share, the highs and the lows.

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